If you've had >1 loss (or even if you haven't) ...

shouldbworkin

did you have a hard time contemplating TTC again?  After my first loss, I was so gung ho to hop back in the saddle.  This time I'm just tired.  I feel like my body has been through so much and I can't even contemplate starting it up again.  I know it's probably normal to feel this way, just was curioius what others did if they felt the same way. 

We will probably wait a little while, but I'm 36, DH is 42, my kids are getting older ... so we can't wait too long.  Maybe I'll feel more in the mood in another month or so?  This is just an odd feeling for me after being on the TTC train hard core for so long. 

lorlei13

I haven't had more than one loss but I'm not really all that excited to start TTC in December.  Ever since my loss, every time we geared ourselves up to start TTC, I got laid off from my job or something would happen where it would delay TTC again.  We are currently on delay #6 and while I am looking forward to it, I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop.  I guess my mental state can't afford to get all excited only to have to put it off again.

emeraudecephiro

I have had two losses (one at 12w5d, one 5w) and I'm horrified, but my desire for children is too strong to keep me away for long. I've always wanted children early in life, and I don't want to end up like my Mom (who had me at 40...not that there is anything wrong with that! It's just a personal thing for me.) I just pray to God that He will spare me the pain of losing again... I know my mental state couldn't take another loss...but I won't give up (I'm bipolar with psychosis...my 1 year anniversary of my loss landed me in the psych ward) so I am approaching cautiously... Sorry to write a novel, but I'm yappy today. But, in short, I'm terrified but doing it anyway.

itsmevkb

I feel tired as well.  I'm tired of thinking about ttc, I'm tried of doctor visits, blood tests, ultrasounds, charting, testing, negative tests, worrying after a positive test, etc.........you name it, I'm tired of it!  Having said that though, I am right back in the game but mainly because of my age.  I am turning 39 in another month so I feel as though I don't have the luxury of taking some time off.  I'm sure if I were younger I may take a break.

What I am shocked by are my thoughts that if I have another loss then I think I'm done.  I never thought I'd reach a point where I would feel that way but I'm just not sure my heart can bear anymore so another loss will probably push me over the edge.

ikissedthecook

I think it was more the other way around for me. The first time around I was just so bummed that I couldn't imagine trying again. It took me a while to get back in the swing of things. The second time around, I was nothing if not more heartbroken, but I wanted nothing more than to try again ASAP. I just realized that I don't know when this is going to happen for me, so I don't want to waste any more time than neccessary.

 I think either emotion is quite normal. I think each woman with each loss handles their grief a bit differently. There is no right or wrong way.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now (((hugs)))

firefightersgal

I've had just one loss, but we've been TTC for so long (two years in December), that I'm just spent.  I have zero enthusiasm for it anymore. 

AutumnLeavesFall

I guess I technicaly have have 2. Pregnant with triplets, lost one at 12 weeks and than the twins at 23 weeks.

I am scared it will happen again, even with my track record of not being able to get pregnant for so long that I want a take home baby.

AutumnLeavesFall

I guess I technicaly have have 2. Pregnant with triplets, lost one at 12 weeks and than the twins at 23 weeks.

I am scared it will happen again, even with my track record of not being able to get pregnant for so long that I want a take home baby.

Lissa832

I was terrified to TTC again after my first loss.  I just didn't think I could handle it if something went wrong.  We had DS with my second pregnancy, and I was sure that things would be fine from then on.  I m/c my third, fourth and fifth pregnancies.  With the last three losses, I wanted to TTC again.  I told DH that if we experience another one though, I'm done.