basically spent all day crying yesterday- no flames please

CarrieB.

I guess the shock wore off and now I'm having a really hard time coping with the fact that I am pg with 3. When they put the 2 5-day blasts in, they said that it was very unlikely that they would split. That's why they like to do 5 day transfers better. So I was okay this whole time with twins, but 3 is terrifying to me. I should be happy and thrilled. We spent the last 3 plus years trying to get pg, and now I feel horrible. 

This is really hard and I feel sick constantly and can barely eat because of the nausea and uncomfortableness. The perinatologist can't see me until next Thursday, so that makes it worse. Also I only weigh about 110 pounds and I'm a tiny person, so I don't know if my body can even carry 3 babies. sorry, please no flames. I was overjoyed to find out I was pg, but this is so much to take in.

cara-n-steve

No flames from me. I think it's normal to have these feelings.  It takes so long to get pregnant it becomes your life.  Once you become pregnant it becomes very exciting and very scary at the same time.  Try to hang in there.  Hopefully your peri will have some words of wisdom for you.

ohiostategal

oh sweetie, I am so sorry.  I have not been in your situation and I cannot imagine what you must be going through.  I hope that the peri appt will give you more information and help you feel more comfortable.  I am wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy.

ALY1981

I'm so sorry you feel this way, try and hang in there.  Have you found anyone with triplets on the multiples board that you can confide in as well?  Of course we are here for you, but maybe that would help you, too.  (((HUGS)))

schoolsoutbride

I'm freaked out by two, so I completely understand why you'd be scared about 3!  Are there any Moms of Multiple's groups in your area?  Maybe talking to another triplet Mom would help so you could get answers to some questions and ease your fears?

if you can't keep down anything, I'd try to get in with somebody before Thursday, even if it's your RE.  You don't want to end up in the hospital on fluids.  My friend who was sick her whole PG said the thing that helped the most (besides drugs) was to not drink within an hour of eating. I hope something makes you feel better ASAP!

madybug

when i was having 3 i found a triplet board on babycenter.com. You should check it out. It will give you some reassurance

OscarQ

No flames here.  In fact a confession - I'm kind of freaked out about being pregnant at all - even with a single - it's hard to wrap the brain around this being for real (which seems so stupid given what it took to get pregnant with a sticky baby).  Multiply that by three with wondering how you are physically going to handle it and financially handle it - well no wonder you are stressing out.

mbjmaybebaby

What you are feeling is completely normal.  I NEVER thought we would have three!  They told us we had a less than 3% chance of all three sticking and only a 20% chance of getting pregnant at all.  Your peri will talk to you about all your options and then you can make an informed decision about what is best for you. 

Hang in there!

mrslovebug

No flames.  I think it is normal to feel that way since it is a lot to adjust to.  ((Hugs))

Deanne Shehane

Hang in there, honey. There are lots of triplet moms out there that will be able to give you some great support from their experiences and some on this board. You can do it! Share all your worries with us, no flames here.

tulips12_30

No flames from me...I'm so sorry you're feeling this way.  I can tell you, we also trans. 2 five day and were told that it was a very, very slim chance they would split.  But I can tell you that DH and I were very worried that this may happen.  Sending all my thoughts and prayers to you for a a very healthy nine months with your three little sweeties... 

ams8099

{{hugs}} Finding out about multiples is overwhelming. There are several triplet mom's on the multiples board. They will be a great resource for you.

wiscgirl95

No flames, ever.  I think "shock" would be an understatement to how I would react.  Add the nausea and feeling physically uncomfortable to the shocking news you received, its all overwhelming. 

I think it's fundamentally unfair that we revert to feeling guilty because we should be overjoyed we're pregnant at all.  Bottom line, you're still entitled to be fearful and overwhelmed or whine about being sick regardless of your struggle to conceive. 

Try and remember that you will be in very good care and just take it one day at a time and if you never need a place to vent or share your emotions, we're all here.  Good luck.

MontyMrs

No flames here either, in fact I was outright terrified when I found out I was having three. It's incredibly overwhelming. My RE also talked extensively about the dangers of a triplet pregnancy and recommended selective reduction. Add in the early m/s and I wasn't doing too well emotionally. I can tell you that for me, it got better. Seeing the MFM and getting all the info as well as choosing to do genetic testing helped ease my mind that I could safetly carry these babies. If you need to talk more please feel free to page or PM me. ((hugs))

LTF525

((hugs))

MerryMarisa

No flames at all from me.  I think it's totally normal to feel what you're feeling; I would be terrified with triplets as well.  You are not alone, hon.  I hope the nausea goes away very soon and you start to feel physically well.  And hon, I hope your peri can calm your fears.  Sending tons of hugs your way.

perry7285

(((hugs)))

cookie_queen

No flames at all! You have a lot to take in right now. Even though we were prepared for twins the reality was still a lot to take in. If one had split I would have sh*t my pants for awhile. Take it day by day. It will get better.  It's great that you are already scheduled to see a peri. Information and facts make things easier for me to process.

good luck! ((hugs)) 

PS- you'll be amazed at what your body can do when you think there's no possible way. 

dianne2007

I am so sorry about how you are feeling. I think it is perfectly normal. I too was terrified when I was told I was havings twins and completed freaked out when I was told we were having triplets. Our Baby C stopped growing at about 9w. And still the idea of twins, still scare me. Feel free to send me a PM if you need to talk.

As far as nausea is concerned, I am still throwing up at basically 22 weeks. The only thing that works for me is 25mg unisom plus 50mg of B-6. I took it a few times and felt really great. Then I stopped because I was worried about the impact on my babies. But my MFM today said it is perfectly fine to take. You may want to try that before you go to bed and see if works for you at all.

 I wish you all the best.

lavitabella17

I think your reaction is totally expected...and then to feel like crap on top of it all, that would make me cry too.  That was so much information to take in, and no one tries to get pregnant with three babies. I really hope your doc will help ease your fears and lead you in the right direction.

 

Dragonfly1226

No flames here. I can't imagine how much you are having to digest right now.

(((((hugehugs))))) 

alchris

Definitely no flames.  I would feel the same way, without question.  Thinking of you.

nikinikinine

HoM are a scary thing to face whether you were trying for months or years. There are plenty of women who have successful trip pregnancies regardless of their size and I promise that the first tri yukkies do get better. I hope that you start to feel better soon and that you have the opportunity to wrap your head around what's happening as well.

amethystgrrl

Thinking of you...

yodasmistress

I will not flame you.  I totally and completely understand.  Trips scares the bajeezus out of me.