Since I missed "Honest Question Day"

4Speedy · September 2010

Can I ask one now? Why were there so many replies of outrage to the nestie who called her DD a "stealer" and then refused to talk to her but nobody disagrees even mildly with the regular poster who admits she was so upset over being bitten by her child that she bit him back? Doesn't that seem equally as bad to anyone else?

And don't say it's because the second poster showed regret--she didn't, she only said it was a poor solution because it won't work in public. She never said she realized it is just plain wrong to bite your child.

This really confuses me.

DandelionMom · September 2010

I must have missed the biter thing. But I'll bet it is because the "stealer" momma has a history of being bsc on this board.

mlm1128 · September 2010

Again, I didn't want to judge. But since you asked...every bit as bad. It is a child, not a puppy. I know they say to do that to train a dog, but I wouldn't do that either.

I'm sure I do things that a re totally judgable too.

GinandTonic · September 2010

I think a lot of is about the tone of the post. First of all, she probably didn't get a ton of responses, because she misspelled "biter". I didn't even bother opening it.

Second of all, she didn't say "PLEASE HELP ME!!! OMG!! I BIT MY KID!!!" in her subject line.

Third of all, she didn't say she was a teacher and that should explain everything.

EliseB0323 · September 2010

Yeah, I kind of wondered about that too. The woman with the "stealer" seemed crazy in all sorts of ways though. Awhile back there was another poster who said she bit her kid because he wouldn't stop biting her and people attacked her. Gibs must be busy today or she would be all over that post.

*Lu-Lu* · September 2010

DandelionMom:
I must have missed the biter thing. But I'll bet it is because the "stealer" momma has a history of being bsc on this board.

ditto this. jennieliz hasn't shown the stupidity that the other poster has shown.

thelastlaugh · September 2010

Wait, so just the fact that you bit your child is not "bsc" enough?? I agree with the OP, it is bizarre to me that the board has not rounded up for the ceremonial flogging of the villiage idiot. I guess no one wants to be the ring leader today or maybe they got it out of their system yesterday... because I can't think of another scenario whereby a poster admits to intentially hurting their child to teach them a lesson and everyone is just ok with it... hmmm.

eclaires · September 2010

Honestly, it's partially what others have posted, but also because I've heard that suggested as a solution to biting more times than I can count. Not here, but IRL, so while I wouldn't do it, it doesn't strike me as utterly age inappropriate or BSC. I sort of equate it to spanking - NMS, not something I would try, but not BSC.

But the other post with the OMG HELP ME I'M A TEACHER MY CHILD IS A STEALER!!!!! was ridiculous and BSC, in my opinion.

I'm sure the OMG HELP ME post got a zillion more views, just by the title alone.

Yodajo · September 2010

I did not open it because of the misspelling.

Judgy in itself, no?

LinzDavid · September 2010

1) I missed the bsc post.

2) I didn't open the bitter post (ha) originally. But, like E, I've heard people say the same thing IRL as well. It's not my style but I've def heard of it and I'd bet others have too?

EdithBouvierBeale · September 2010

I ahve heard that advice lots of times...i haven't done it, but I consider it every time my kid chomps me, and I may someday do it. ( was I involved in that post? I feel like I was?)

if my kid's big topic in therapy is the time his ma bit him after he bit her- then I can live with my conscience. really.

take it and run!