New here...I might be high risk now

MamaLAM

Hey, Mamas. I am not sure if I am high risk yet, but I sure feel like I am.

At the end of August, I had a terrifying experience during which I was convinced I was miscarrying. There was literally blood streaming out of me, and I had stabbing-type cramps in my uterus. I was sent to the ER, where they ran tests and did an emergency ultrasound. The tech couldn't tell me anything, and it ended up being 4 hours later that we were FINALLY told that our little baby was actually still alive. DH and I were shocked. Relieved, grateful, happy, but...stunned. I felt like I had practically been through a m/c (at least emotionally) for the past 6 hours, and yet, at the end of the night... the baby was still alive. 

I ended up being diagnosed with a marginal placental abruption. I bled nonstop for a week after that, and I was on bed rest for a total of 2 weeks. Finally, after cobbling together childcare for my one year old for 2 weeks,  I was released off of bed rest! I was so happy, and took care of my daughter for 2 days like normal.

Then, the bleeding started again. At first, my OB said, "No big deal, it sounds like mostly old blood. Let's just monitor it." So I went about my business. I bled all Thurs, none on Friday, then I've been bleeding ever since. Sat, Sun, and all today (Mon). Tomorrow, I'm going in for an urgent appointment with my OB, and hopefully they will find out what's going on. Another abruption? An infection? Something else?

PLUS: I just found out, based on my own research on webMD, that any bleeding during the 2nd trimester, and any placental abruption, requires an RH negative person like me to have a Rhogham shot! Why did no one tell me this! I kept telling everyone in the ER, "i'm RH negative, does that make a difference?" and no one said anything! I am so mad and so worried that something may go wrong b/c they didn't give me that shot. And today when I asked him about it, my OB had actually forgotten that I was RH negative!! SERIOUSLY????

 Anyway. If you have read all of this rant/ramble, you deserve an award for patience. Thanks for listening, and please send some prayers and thoughts my way, if you have the time. Stick baby, stick!

MaryYVR

So sorry you're going through this.  I'm Rh- as well and was told that anytime there is bleeding after 8 weeks, I would need a Rhogam shot. I had a bit of mild spotting at 13 weeks this time and they decided I didn't need one as it was really minor but I would ask your OB tomorrow about getting a Rhogam shot.  It's pretty negligent if you needed one and they forgot to give you one.

Good luck!  I lost a baby at almost 14 weeks and know how scary and devastated you must have felt.  So glad you got news that your LO is okay.

mrsschrager

I am sorry you are dealing with this.. I am rh negative as well.. I have had the shot a few times.. after my m/c and then twice with ds and once so far with this baby and I wil have another in the hospital after the birth.. we dont know if dh is pos or neg blood type but as ds was  a pos blood type I am gussing that means dh is pos but rhogam has always been given to me as a percaution even before ds ws born! Better safe than sorry.. I hope you get that shot tomorrow... thats insane that the dr forgot you are rh negative.. it is on the front of my chart.. a big red sticker that says rh negative. I might consider getting a new ob.. he sounds like an idiot.. Best of luck I hope everything is ok.

Toddsgirl0323

I agree,  I think your dr is an idiot, and you could sue him for such negligence!

I am sorry you are going through this.  I can't imagine how you feel.  I had 21 weeks of bedrest with my last baby and understand high risk and the impact on your life, so if you need an ear, I'm here