Shower Question

4510heather

My friends (4 of them) who are throwing my shower have asked me to prepare my invite list but haven't given me any parameters as to number of guests (and when asked they just say whoever you want).  What is a reasonable number of people to invite?  It will be an afternoon event hosted in one of my friend's homes.

TIA!

 

mrslovebug

I invited about 60 people to mine.  That is only family and close friends because I am pretty sure mine is going to be at a family member's house.

4510heather

That makes me feel better...my list has 44 people (including the hostesses) and I was worried that was too many.  I could cut about 14 from the list, but I also know the general rule is that only 2/3 of people usually come, right? 

Thanks!

mrslovebug

That's exactly what I was thinking...not everyone will come and considering most of my list is family, I can't feel bad about having so many people. 

EMTTessie

If no one will give you a limit, I would make a list, not worrying about how many people are on it, and show it to your friends. Ask them to tell you if the number exceeds what they think they can handle cost and people wise, and then work from there. Keep in mind that unfortunately not everyone invited will be able to attend, so that might help if you are feeling guilty about the number of people you want invited.

I honestly don't know how many are being invited to my shower except the list of people I gave to one friend (MIL never really told me who else she was sending invites to). But I figure about 30 people maybe? My first shower was held at my mom's house and we somehow managed to fit 30 people, even though I didn't think it would happen.

Deanne Shehane

I am having two showers, one in my hometown and one in my husband's where we currently live. I have 50 invited to one and 60 invited to the other due to my mother and mother in law adding their friends to my lists. 

nikinikinine

I gave my mom a list of 19 people total (all family), I think 6 (if that) are coming to the shower. 

I could have added friends and such, but I didn't think that my friends would make the trip and H's friends would rather not be at a shower. We only had 99 ppl at our wedding so a 6 person shower sounds about right LOL.

If you have a list give it to them, if you're worried about # give them an A list and a B list and say if $$$ is a concern that you don't need to invite the B list or something  

newsbaby

My list has 50 on it but I highly doubt all 50 will come.

I say give them a full list of those who you would like to invite. Not everyone will come and you don't want to offend anyone by not inviting them.