MIL rant (kinda long)

averlyna08

Last night, DH and I decided to make meatballs for dinner. I told him that he had to help because I had a long day and really wasn't in the mood to roll out about 3 dozen meatballs, but we did. The moment we sat down to dinner, which was at 6:45pm, DH gets a phone call. His mom called and said that she was bored and wanted to go look at some of the things at BRU that we decided we wanted to put on our registry. I was really tired and had already put my pajamas on, but I decided to try and do the right thing (my MIL and I don't have the best relationship) and go out to show her the things we want.

We get to BRU and we start to show her around. We showed her the stroller we liked and she was kind of ambivalent about but whatever. Then we get to the pack and play section and show her the one we like and all she can say is how much she likes a different better. After that we move over to the bedding and show her the jungle theme bedding we like (we're finding out the sex but are still going to be Team Green) and all she has to say is that nothing she's made us has any of the colors that were in the bedding we liked. This basically threw me over the edge. I can't believe that she would have the nerve to go and start making things for our baby without first asking us what colors we were going to do the room in.

 Over the 30 minutes that we stayed in the store, I don't think I heard one nice word come out her mouth. Everything was just either sooo expensive or didn't match what she wanted. Well this is my baby not her's. I deserve to have things the way I want them.

Sorry this was so long. I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks ladies!   

March2011Mama

Aaahhh, that would have been so frustrating! Go ahead and make your registry with everything you want. If the stuff she has already made doesn't match, well that's her fault then. It was nice of her to make you stuff, but her attitude should be, "it doesn't quite match, but oh well! I jumped the gun, haha" Good for you for heading out in the evening to please her, when I know just how tired most of us are!

OscarQ

I'm sorry she was a tool.  Next time, don't "do the right thing".  Stay in those pj's and go to bed early.  Seriously, I wouldn't get dressed again and go to BRU with my own mother - let alone a MIL I don't have a good relationship with.

RayRay007

Argh. That would drive me nuts. I am so thankful I don't have family like that. I am sorry I don't have any advice on how to handle her, except to let it roll off your back.

Mauimom2

Aaarrrggghhh, I would have felt completely the same - have all the things you and your husband want for your baby.  Don't take it to heart as there is just no pleasing some people, sounds like it wouldn't have mattered what you picked it wouldn't have been her choice . . . just as well that choice is yours. =0]

averlyna08

It was really nice of her to make some things for the baby and she's really good at it. I just wish her attitude was different. As a PP said, I will definitely not be getting out of my pj's next time. It's not worth the stress.

mommyjenny257

My MIL is the same way.  I totally feel your pain, I'm just lucky she lives 1500 miles away and I believe is coming to the realization that I'm an individual and extremely opinionated and what she says, while I hear it, makes no difference.

thebigmare

All I can say is SIGH. MILs...

hrushka13

That is why I am not getting involved with my MIL in anyway other than telling her we are pregnant... which is why we still haven't told her >.< I am dreading this part out and postponing it until next week ( we said that for the past 3 weeks now)?