Theres something wrong with me

meldecenco

I feel like a horrible mom. I recently started a job, after staying home with Maya for 9 months. My boyfriend watched her while I'm at work. When she was smaller I could care for her needs and play with her just fine. Now that shes getting older, I see her dad teaching her things that I'm not. I feel I should be doing more. I love her with ever breath in my body, but sometimes I just don't want to deal with her whining. I cant stay consistent in doing something with her. I'm bad at routine myself. It doesn't help that my BF is always saying how I push her asides to do whatever I want to do. For 9 months I was basically her only caregiver. I feel like I needed a break, but now I regret it. I want to do things with her but she seems to only want daddy. I'm tearing up as I write this. How do I fix this? Please help.

kiwi443

Aw, I'm sorry you're feeling so rotten about this.

It's normal for your daughter to prefer your bf if he's the one spending more time with her. Her preferences will probably switch back and forth over the next few months. Just try to make the most of the time you do have with her.

JLG95

I'm sorry you're having trouble with this.

I think you're going to have to make an effort to at least have a routine with your daughter.  A lot of babies do best with a routine of some sort.  Does your boyfriend have an evening routine with the baby?  Maybe there is some small part of it that you can take over -- like before dinner playtime, or actually feeding her dinner, bath time, story time,  or the bottle before bedtime etc.

meldecenco

I work from 7a-1p then 6p-9 so I miss almost everything