Did you ever think...

Dragonfly1226

Did you ever think that when you're out and about looking all pregnant that maybe you're passing someone in the store or on the street who is battling IF and making them a little sad?

I thought about this in the grocery store today. I totally used to pass pregnant ladies and feel a twinge. I really hope I am not causing anyone to feel that way without even knowing it.

I wish nobody had to deal with IF. 

ashonkwiler09

I have thought the same thing too.

newsbaby

This has definitely crossed my mind before. 

Mrs.Voz

I hope I am not out of line but as a regular poster on IF Board and a total supporter/lurker over here, I must say that I now smile with I see a pregant woman.  I used to feel like all of the pregnant women I saw were fertile women.  But over the past months, now I smile huge when I see someone expecting because I think that she maybe one of you PAIFers and it gives me hope! :-)  

smilee

a lot, actually.  

I was in the mall one day towards the end of my pregnancy ( when I was really visibly pregnant) and I saw a girl look at me and my belly the way I used to look at PG bellies and it just about broke my heart.  I just knew, I would have bet my life on it.

I wanted to give her a hug and tell her that I get it. 

MZANS

oh smilee..that is so sad

I am not sporting a bump of any kind but I will tell you that i'm very careful about talking about what is going on with me.  1/2 because i'm terrified everything is going to end and 1/2 because i'm nervous that I will talk to someone who is going through IF.

 

j11skate

Dragonfly1226:

Did you ever think that when you're out and about looking all pregnant that maybe you're passing someone in the store or on the street who is battling IF and making them a little sad?

I thought about this in the grocery store today. I totally used to pass pregnant ladies and feel a twinge. I really hope I am not causing anyone to feel that way without even knowing it.

I wish nobody had to deal with IF. 

I'm on my phone so I can't bold but if I could I would to your last sentence! I wish it uponnobody!

Mrs.Kiltlifter

All the time.  I get looks, especially since I am looking pretty close to full term for a singleton now, and I know that look.  It breaks my heart.  Sometimes I don't like all the twin questions and I pick and choose when I want to answer them from a stranger.  But I did one day at Target and the lady behind me said, "we are struggling and thinking of IUI's, did you do that?" So I talked to her for a good 10 mins.  I really wish IF didn't exist.  And I wish that the effing government would pull their heads out of their arse and recognize it as a serious disease warranting medical coverage. 

mbjmaybebaby

I think about this all the time when girls look at me...

chickaboo1974

I had a sad experience the other day.

My MFM office is on the same floor as my RE office- actually the MFM is down the hall from the RE.  I was getting off the elevator for my appointment at the MFM and a woman that cycled with me at my RE was waiting for the elevator.  She recognized me- then looked down and saw my very noticable belly.  I saw the look in her eyes, the look on her face was just so sad.  I felt really bad that here I was pg and she wasn't. 

nikinikinine

I think about this all the time. I am at the point now where I'm starting to realize this may be my only pregnancy and I need to stop feeling so guilty about enjoying it or being excited. I worked hard for this, even if no one else knows that, and while I would never want to hurt anyone else intentionally, I only have myself to worry about right now. KWIM?

LTF525

I know exactly what you mean. I became really close with a co-worker after we ran into each other in the fertility clinic. I got pregnant and she's having to start to look into the adoption option. I never bring up my pregnancy around her but I always cringe when someone else does. It breaks my heart everytime she looks at me because I can tell how much it hurts her.

JaGirl

Yup. I think about this all the time.

vawad82

MZANS:

oh smilee..that is so sad

I am not sporting a bump of any kind but I will tell you that i'm very careful about talking about what is going on with me.  1/2 because i'm terrified everything is going to end and 1/2 because i'm nervous that I will talk to someone who is going through IF.

 

This exactly!!  And especially since I know how easy it is to hide!! 

AimeeL85

I think about that all the time. I wish there was a secret way to say "this wasn't easy.."

Before I was pregnant, that's how I tried to stop myself from getting depressed when I saw pregnant strangers...I would just say to myself "who knows what they had to go through to get there." Yeah, most of them probably did have it easy...but maybe not.

mrslovebug

I think about this all the time.

ALY1981

yes!

lavitabella17

My belly isn't showing yet, but I've already thought about it, just by the news spreading that we are pregnant, I want it to give others hope and not cause sadness...