"No gifts please"

ZTACRYSTAL

Is it wrong to tell people when they ask what to get DD for her birthday, "Please don't get her anything, your presence is all she needs"? DD's birthday invitations went in the mail and I have recieved 7 RSVP's. Every single one has asked what I would like DD to get for her birthday. I never thought about it until they started asking. At first I said books and maybe some fall clothes. But im really thinking thats a lot of books and clothes and she doesn't need anything. We are getting her a wagon, my parents are getting her a motorized car, and my MIL is getting her a Zany Zoo. We are having a large party (80 or so guests I think) and her playroom already looks like Toys R Us.

My mom said that I shouldn't tell anyone not to bring a gift because when others do they will feel bad. I guess I should have thought about this before invitations went out. Maybe I could have put something on there? 

WWYD?

BrittKav

I would just let people bring gifts. I think your mom is right that if some people brings gifts and others don't, it might be awkward for those that didn't. If you want you could donate your excess gifts later to a shelter or church nursery.

maddmask

Personally, I would rather be told that if I asked about a gift than to see it on the invitation.  I think it's a bit tacky on the invite.  JMHO.

sare_bear

maddmask:

Personally, I would rather be told that if I asked about a gift than to see it on the invitation.  I think it's a bit tacky on the invite.  JMHO.

 

jdreams76

I would just let them bring gifts and like previously stated either give them to a church or wait until toys for tots starts up and present them with the toys.

ZTACRYSTAL

Awesome ideas. Thank you!

JulieandBen

People are going to bring gifts anyway. Accept that you are going to have an explosion of gifts.

ILWMS

I honestly would be so offended if the person said "no gifts" just expect an explosion of presents and be thrilled you won't have to buy any toys for a year!

JenShea

On DS invites we just put "In Lieu of gifts please make a donation to the (local no-kill animal shelter)" we put the shelter's wish list under that. If people bring gifts anyway we will put them under a table and open them at home.

Lizard2022

I agree, if you don't want the toys donate them to your local domestic violence shelter or something like that.  I would feel awkward going to a party without a gift, and I think most people do.

first-time-mama

ILWMSchmeester:

I honestly would be so offended if the person said "no gifts" just expect an explosion of presents and be thrilled you won't have to buy any toys for a year!

This!  I honestly could NEVER go to a birthday party and NOT bring a gift..I would be embarrassed IMO

ESD_0707

Maybe you could ask for winter things like a sled or snow boots.  The stores should have tons of winter things in a few weeks.  Some stores already do!  Just thinking of my own DD, we need gloves, hats, sweatshirts, snowsuits, etc.  I think books are a wonderful idea too!