how would you feel?

taggiecb

I just saw a post that someone found out they are having a boy when the first ultrasound tech said girl.

I have an ultrasound next week and was told last time I am having a boy.  I don't know how I will feel if I find out it is a girl instead.  I am happy any way it goes, but now that I am told he is a boy he is a little more of a person, and if I am all of a sudden told it is a girl, it will be a different person all together?

How would you feel if you find out your ultrasound was wrong?

*sallymad*

I would be pissed, ONLY because it takes my entire pregnancy to think of names for our babies. DD1 only had one name picked out the entire 9 months, if she didn't look like a Guinevere we were screwed, lol. So since we found out this one is a girl we still don't have one name on the table and we probably won't until about a month before I deliver so if it came out a boy we'd be totally screwed for a name. Ha!

stbmittleman

I was just thinking about this the other day. I would be irritated because I've gone crazy buying girly things. Otherwise, it would take a bit of an adjustment when you think you are having one sex and turns out you are having another. I wouldn't be disappointed, because I was equally excited to have a girl as I was about having a boy. I agree with you that it seems like you have a different person growing (even though it really is the same person). We call our baby Natalie. We talk about the girly things she's going to do. I was just telling DH today that I'm looking forward to taking her to San Francisco every Christmas to have tea and see the Nutcracker. It would be weird to have to then shift it to talking about a boy and what he's going to be like, etc.

pawcall

I'd kind of freak out.  Obviously I'd love him (or - i guess her?) either way, but he is so emphatically AIDAN to me at this point I would have a tough time adjusting.  I'd imagine it feels like you lost the child you have been imagining and envisioning and gained a totally different kid.  

holiday819

laceyjean1:

I just saw a post that someone found out they are having a boy when the first ultrasound tech said girl.

I have an ultrasound next week and was told last time I am having a boy.  I don't know how I will feel if I find out it is a girl instead.  I am happy any way it goes, but now that I am told he is a boy he is a little more of a person, and if I am all of a sudden told it is a girl, it will be a different person all together?

How would you feel if you find out your ultrasound was wrong?

a friend of mine was told they were having a boy, so they decorated the nursery with baseball theme and obviously had boy clothes all ready to go.  when the baby was born, A GIRL.  yeah he was a little upset.  i think with me, if i was told it was a boy or girl and then it changed at another ultra sound i would be disappointed because you're expecting boy/girl so you prepare yourself for boy/girl.  i hope you're still having a boy next week.  

pawcall

I should add that if Aidan morphs into Alexa, SHE will be wearing every last stitch of the adorable boy clothes I have bought.  My older brother wore nothing but pink for the first 5-6 months of his life, because he "was" a girl up until the day he was born.

izzourclue

Actually a little panicked.  Not because I would be upset about having a boy rather than a girl, but because I've pretty much committed to a girly nursery and have already bought a lot of pink clothes.  There would just be some scrambling to do.

hlh018

When I was pregnant with the boys I was told I was having a boy and a girl.  Well at 30 weeks I had another ultrasound where they told me it might actually be two boys...At 32 weeks sure enough I had two boys.  We went to the hospital with a list of names we liked and never were set on one or the other.  I don't remember at the time what I felt when I was told I might be having two boys....part of me just thought well at least they'll probably be best friends and play well together growing up.  I do still have little girl clothes in our closet though lol.

 This time we were told if she had to make a guess she would guess it's another boy...ummm really.  I didn't see any little boys parts, he/she was kicking up a storm and my placenta is low so it was hard to get a good shot.  I'm not convinced so I hope I get another ultrasound sometimes in the near future.

tulips12_30

cdobry01:

I'd kind of freak out.  Obviously I'd love him (or - i guess her?) either way, but he is so emphatically AIDAN to me at this point I would have a tough time adjusting.  I'd imagine it feels like you lost the child you have been imagining and envisioning and gained a totally different kid.  

This exactly. 

JD807

cdobry01:

I'd kind of freak out.  Obviously I'd love him (or - i guess her?) either way, but he is so emphatically AIDAN to me at this point I would have a tough time adjusting.

I'm with this...and also what another PP said... We call our LO Sophie...talk about meeting 'her' and DH has gotten used to referring to her as a her..rather then it...lol. I would love it either way..and i've been badgering DH to think of a boy's name just in case. A girl I worked with had 3 boys and was pregnant with a 4th...got told it was a girl. She was ecstatic, asked them to be 100% sure, they went in from different angles at different times and told them 110% sure...so they decorated for a girl, bought all girl stuff..and it popped out another boy. Now, IMO , she went a little overboard with her reaction. She threw a freaking fit...refused to dress her newborn to come home from the hospital in anything they bought..even if it wasn't pink...forced her relatives to go out yard sale-ing to purchase all boy stuff before she could go home. Made her DH return the stroller they'd bought because it had a flower on it. 

I think that while i'll be a little upset, because we've invested so much in referring to her as 'her'...but I think i'll get over it pretty quickly...i mean, healthy baby=fantastic either way, right? 

maltwin1

This post just made me pull up my last U/S pic to make good and sure that what we saw was for sure a penis. LOL...I think I'm convinced.

jaejaevee

I'm not sure if the post you're referring to is mine from the Expecting a Sibling thread, but if it is that was a totally weird situation.  I was in the ER at 19 weeks and the tech there (who has way less fancy equipment and way less experience looking at baby anatomy than my OB office) gave us a guess.  For some reason, I just didn't think she was right so I was never really set on the idea of having a girl.

That said, I think I'd be bummed for sure if I had made my plans around baby being one sex and coming out another.  I'm glad to have decent u/s penis shots this time around so I don't have to wonder.

nygirl07

This is why I'm glad LO was a little shy during my first scan and I have to go back for a picture of her face.  I do plan on asking them to double check ...even though there is a pretty good shot of her girly parts

Ambs11

Hey All

 I am just wondering when you went for your ultrasounds did the tech not tell u that there is always a 10% chance they could be wrong? They warn you up here that they can always be wrong. Now Im not saying we wouldnt be upset at all but when I've already been warned that they may be wrong then how upset could i really be either way this is still my child and it was still formed in me. But they only do one ultrasound here unless it is medicaly nessesary or you go in and pay for a second. Also depending on where you go they may not tell you the gender before 21 weeks they will send it to you dr upon request but they wont tell you. (apparently some cultures will abort if it isnt the gender they want) Just putting it out there.

JD807

every MD must be different. I'm aware there's a margin of error...which is why DH and I are also picking a boys name just in case...but my U/S tech asked "Do we want to find out what we're having?" and when I replied yes...she said "It's a Girl" pointed out the lines and moved on. *shrug* every office is differant, i suppose

RHitch

To be honest, I would be devastated.  We wanted a son so bad, and now that we are having one, I think we would both be crushed if the baby was indeed a girl.  Lately I have been having this reoccurring dream that I went in for my level II ultra sound and it was a girl.  I have my last (hopefully) u/s with the peri on Sept 14th.  The first thing I am asking is the gender.  If it's a girl, I will probably cry, but I will eventually get over it.

BTW - My friend was told she was having a girl throughout her entire pregnancy.  When the baby was born, it was a boy.  She already had two boys at home and was devastated that she would never have a little girl.  It took her several weeks to "mourn" her loss.  I felt so bad for her!  Now, she loves him to death, but those first few weeks were extremely difficult for her.

mchupie

I'd be pissed - but probably for only 5 minutes.  I just gifted away all of the little boy clothes I have bought over the last year LOL.

cherryghost

This is why I'm holding off on all the pink as of now.  The tech did not see what she wanted to see at u/s, but said she was *almost* 100% it was a girl.  I suppose she should know what she is doing after 30 years of doing this, but human error does occur. So we're saying team pink for now until next u/s.

Oceangirl22

Actually my DH started freaking out about this yesterday. Especially since we had the tech write down the sex, and she put the picture in the envelope as well, but since she didn't SHOW us the parts and all. I hear it's more common for them to tell you girl and for it to be a boy, because of hiding parts. 

DH and I might get an elective later on, just to be sure. We plan on doing everything neutral anyway.  

marclovesme

One of the few reasons I'm glad we had to go through the chromosomal testing.  No guessing unless that tech made a mistake!  We did see the girlie bits on the u/s today, so I'm not concerned about any errors.  That being said, one reason I didn't want to find out initially is that mistakes happen.

I also knew someone who thought they were having a boy but it was a girl.  She's pretty flexible, so it was more of a joke, but I'd probably be throwing a fit. 

atownpreggo

I would be pretty annoyed...  simply because I'm buying tons of girl stuff, and also have started writing her little notes in a journal, which I'll keep secret and give her as a birthday gift someday when she's old enough to appreciate it.  Considering it's written to Sarah, I would have no use for it, which would be disappointing.  I'm really nervous because I've heard of this happening, so I asked my technician how sure she was, and she said 100%! I sure hope so!!