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is it rude to decline a shower?

AlwaysMrsSAlwaysMrsS member
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My BFF, my aunt and cousin, my SIL and brother, and SO mom have all offered to throw me a shower. At first I only had 3 offers and thought it was fine because someone would fall through and I would only have 2, but they are all pushing to start the planning and I don't want 4 showers.  I told my bff she didn't have to but she INSISTS, so we agreed it would be small just with our sorority sisters. I don't have that many friends or family here, and neither does SO, so I feel like it would be either strangers or 3 very small showers. I'm not big on being in the spot light, I'm not sure I can sit through all 4. I don't know who to tell "Thanks, but no thanks" or if I should just go with it. What would you do?
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    june21jbrjune21jbr
    If there are enough different people to invite to 4 showers, I would probably just go with it even though it does seem like alot.  If they are small, it shouldn't be too bad. :)
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    pawcallpawcall member

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    If there are enough different people to invite to 4 showers, I would probably just go with it even though it does seem like alot.  If they are small, it shouldn't be too bad. :)

    I agree with this.

    If you don't feel like there are enough people for all four showers, you can ask some people to consolidate.  Maybe do the one for your sorority sisters, one for your side of the family (ask your aunt and cousin and SIL and brother to combine forces?), and one for SO's side of the family (hosted by SO's mom).

    Also - I've never had a shower but have heard that smaller ones are always the most fun.

     

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    NJBritNJBrit
    I would go ahead with it, but then again I wish I even had a shower to decline :(
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    maltwin1maltwin1 member
    Do any of them know each other well enough to go in together for one? That way they could split the cost and you wouldn't have to feel like you were being so showered that you were being poured on.
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    turbostang7turbostang7 member

    imageNJBrit:
    I would go ahead with it, but then again I wish I even had a shower to decline :(

    Well I would throw you one if I lived closer... hopefully someone will throw you one.

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    imageNJBrit:
    I would go ahead with it, but then again I wish I even had a shower to decline :(

    This!  My friend who just had a baby had like 5 or 6 small showers.  They were all for different groups of people that would have been awkward being all together for a big one.  

     

    Although my manager at work asked me if I am having one or have had one, I explained we probably won't have any.  And DH is supposedly supposed to start working there soon as a 3rd PT job (if they ever get started on the process), so it would be appropriate.  I also wouldn't be surprised if they did a combined shower for the three of us that are pregnant because we are all due within 2 months of each other. 

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