Have I created a monster??

lindseychase06

So I have been lucky enough to stay at home for the past 4 months with my DS. Now he is in daycare and I started to realize something. He didn't nap at all, and was very fussy. My DH stayed with him today and he cried all day and wouldn't nap (and my DH is very involved with him on a daily basis). Everyone who has babysat for him says they can't get him to nap and he is fussy. But when I was with him all summer he was fine, slept well and was happy.

So it makes me wonder, did I do something wrong? I don't do anything out of the ordinary for parenting, anyone should be able to come in and care for him. He is such a laid back kid usually. I don't know why he's not like that for others.

 

RadicalDreamer143

Has he spent a lot of time with people other than you?

lindseychase06

Yes! We are around people all of the time. He will let other people hold him just fine. He smiles and coos at everyone. It just seems no one else can get him to sleep, then he become cranky, and then inconsolable

RadicalDreamer143

Hmm.  Have you explicitly detailed to his caregivers how you put him down for naps?

Also, you MIGHT be worrying for nothing.  If he's only been there a week, he might just need to adjust to a change in his routine.

My Liam won't sleep well at daycare, because he is a tummy sleeper and they refuse to let him sleep on his tummy

Sugarnear

I could have written this. DS has slept great with me all summer, but in his bassinet. I have only recently been putting him in the crib. I can get him in it when he is sound asleep but he won't stay asleep, and the daycare lady is afraid she can't soothe him. We are bringing his bassinet to daycare on Monday, but I'm worried that this is not going to go well. He doesn't do "go to sleep awake but drowsy". We've been working on it, but he screamed for four hours today. I finally gave up and he's passed out in the bassinet.

lindseychase06

I expect him to have issues at daycare. I was not expecting him to be like that with DH today. He knows the routine and followed it exactly. I think people just don't look for his sleep cues.

I do leave explicit directions, but they never get followed just as I leave them. Maybe if they were their time spent with him would be more pleasant...

lindseychase06

I was letting him nap in his bouncy chair, it was the only place he'd sleep for a while. But about a month before daycare I started transitioning him to naps in the pnp, which he would be sleeping in there. He will sleep in it just fine.

I think other people aren't as patient with him in looking for the sleep cues and working to put him down. You can't just lay him down when he starts to get fussy, its too late then. I watch for him to slow down and look sleepy. Then I help him get comfy and spend time with him for a few minutes. I can then lay him down drowsy but awake.