People are weird (warning baby stuff mentioned)

AuburnBride06

This is just a vent, but I really don't get people. One of my friends is very strange. She is quite competitive, often comparing themselves to DH & I. So silly and it really gets old. I really don't think that kind of stuff happens in a real friendship. I have been asking my friends for recommendations on a diaper bag and everyone but this one has given a rec. She just refuses to tell me what her diaper big is, which I find so strange. What the heck is the big secret??? She has done this with other stuff too (general house stuff, etc). It's just so ridiculous. It makes me just not want to bother even talking to her. What happened to normal conversations and helping people out?

Why are people so weird? 

Yellow_Daisy

Ugh I hate when my friends feel like they have to compete with me.  I get rid of those friends because they really aren't good friends, IMHO.  That said DH and I are just not "keeping up with the Jones" kind of people.

meg_koole

I agree, some people are really wierd about stuff.  She is probably just jealous of you and your husband to a certain extend. 

Sorry you have to go through that!  If I had a good suggestion for a Diaper bag I would give it to you

SPerry0376

I have no idea why anyone would want to keep their diaper bag a secret. That is really silly.

cherry58

I have a similar friend!  She's super competitive with everyone.  She won't tell me where she gets her clothes or accessories.  I assume it's because she knows I like it and if I have it too then she doesn't have one up on me.  

AuburnBride06

meg_koole:

I agree, some people are really wierd about stuff.  She is probably just jealous of you and your husband to a certain extend. 

Sorry you have to go through that!  If I had a good suggestion for a Diaper bag I would give it to you

Aw thanks sweetie! 

Yellow--DH & I have seriously thought about whether to continue the friendship. They are good people, for the most part, and they have given us a decent amount of support over the years. But the competitiveness is so exhausting. We have had to end friendships over the years (mainly due to IF), and have seriously considered doing the same with this. We have gotten to where we no longer ask them to do stuff, and they hardly ever ask us anymore either. But she does not hesitate to throw in a comparative jab or give her opinion on something, even on blackberry messenger. My besties live 3 hours away, and I so wish they lived near us instead of these friends.

AuburnBride06

SPerry0376:

I have no idea why anyone would want to keep their diaper bag a secret. That is really silly.

Isn't it super crazy? All she will say is "it cost about $60".  I'm like, "gee, thanks for the help, you're a peach!"

DeputiesWife

That is strange!

DH and I arent keeping up with the Jonses either - and what does it matter how much it costs -- you asked a simple question. I dont get why people are like that!

AuburnBride06

I hate it, because I really love having close, meaningful relationships with people. She made her DH quit his (very good, stable) job because it was a 40 minute commute and she did not like that he could not take off whenever she or the baby got sick or to go to his well baby check ups. He ended up starting his own "company" and she constantly tells us that he is able to sustain their family. I'm like great, I'm glad. I don't want you guys to struggle. She also implied that we live to work, because my DH loves his job (same place her DH used to work) and because once we get our baby, I will not SAH. I am no stranger to judging friends, but 99% of the time it is warranted at least. I sometimes think she is self conscious about their life & feels she has to justify it. I don't care in the least, they are the ones who have to live with the choices, just like we live with ours. Whatever happened to just honest friendship?

mrshoppy_1231

My DH grew up with a guy that married a girl JUST like that. We love him but we can't stand her.

I honestly think a lot of it is insecurity - they constantly compare themselves to others and it has gotten to the point where she doesn't like me because I think she compares herself to me all the time. We can't cut them out, he is like a brother to my DH but I hear ya, it gets exhausting! We are lucky they live in another state now so we don't see them very often...

theworms

ugh! people are weird

((HUGS))

hoping4more

What the heck. It's a diaper bag, not what type/size panties she is wearing!

mainesmichelle

Hey- sorry for having to deal with this..what a pain!!!  I haven't bought one for myself yet, but I bought my sister a LeSport Sac while I was in HK for work and she loved it!!  I think you can buy them limited designs in the US.  If your intersted I would look on the web-site, I find the designs from outside the US are much better.

Good Luck!!