Anyone else dealing..

SugarsBug

with an irritable hubby? Ever since we got the good news of being pg we have been butting heads, and just both of us are grumpy and are so easily frustrated. It is driving me INSANE. Literally... We are both ecstatic about the baby, but he's not really the romantic sensitive type, and i desperately need that right now.. Is this a problem for anyone else too?

heathert323

YES. We have never argued as much as we do now...but also I feel like I have never noticed all his little "quircks". I love him, but he really has been annoying me.

landa46

I'm sorry you're feeling  this way. My hubby has been irritable at times, but I think it is his way of dealing with stress. My nurse practitioner told me I need to relax A LOT to keep down the spotting and cramping--which means hubby doesn't get sex, has to do a lot more for himself (meals and stuff), and overall feels inconvenienced. He works full time and then comes home to a 2nd job. So I try not to take it so personal... but do, at times, get upset when he isn't sensitive to my needs. I am carrying the baby after all! I just try to understand where he's coming from and how this might be his way of coping with all the changes.

6fsn

I don't have advice, but I can commiserate.  We are in a high, high stress time.  DH's current job is gearing up for the busiest time of year.  He's also accepted a job offer 3 hrs away, but hasn't resigned from the first job yet.  We're trying to get the house on the market and find a place to live in the new town.  Not to mention we have a 2 yo already.

It's just high stress.  We take it day by day, apologize a lot, eat some ice cream, and know that it will end soon.

jnmheim

Naturally, men don't understand what woman go through during pregnancy. I have found that dropping little reminders, or leaving the bump open to the symptoms page on the computer helps remind our hubby's what we are going through. For a while my hubby would know exactly what to do to get me angry and then he would say something like "Geez you're being mean/nasty" and then I would start balling "it's not my fault, I can't help it." He always ends up apologizing...but I think he just doesn't get it.

 

Also, a woman becomes a mommy the moment they find out their pregnant. I man doesn't become a daddy until he holds his baby for the first time. 

m0132

We had that problem the first time around. DH is not emotional AT ALL and I was overly emotional at the time so it made us fight a lot. I know for my DH, although he was excited about a baby, he can't help but think about all the financial issues a baby may bring as well..when he found out about DD the first thing that came out of his mouth was "how will we pay for college?!" This time around, I don't expect him to be all mushy to me just because I am pregnant..and when he is its just a pleasant surprise but if not, thats fine too ( I'm not very emotional normally anyway) I'm sure you guys will get past this, maybe just talk to him and ask whats been bothering him lately, and also tell him how you feel..maybe he doesn't know you need him to be a little more sensitive right now.