so afraid I'm going to have to get another lap

babystinkbreath

so my WTF is next week and I'm really anxious to cycle again.  However, I have a feeling the doc is going to suggest that I have a lap to remove both of my tubes.  I really, really did not want to do this because 1) even though I know it will never happen on it's own, I didn't want to eliminate any possibility by having no tubes and 2) the last time I had a lap I ended up becoming infertile. 

 I posted my history before, but I had a lap/hyster in Feb to correct a septated uterus and the doc punctured my intestine.  After a week of the doctors telling me there were no complications and that I just didn't handle pain very well I ended up in emergency surgery with a massive infection in my abdomen (which is what ruined both my tubes) and had to have some of my intestine removed.  When I had my HSG I was told both tubes were blocked and I had hydrosalpinx in my tubes.  Needless to say I was not willing to jump back into another lap.

DH and decided to proceed w/ IVF #1 without having a lap because I knew my body could not take it.  And when they did further u/s they said they didn't see the evidence of the hydro that they had seen before.  Now that round 1 is a BFN, I may have to reconsider.  I just saw someone else post the same question about WWYD in this situation, and I just don't know. 

The foot long scar running down my stomach says don't do it, but my fear of never getting pregnant makes me reconsider.  

BathingInBitter

That's a tough one. I don't know what I would do in your shoes. Considering you had such bad luck with your first lap I would be scared out of my mind. But, I also know the fear of thinking that having a baby is never going to happen....

Can I ask, are you OOP or do you have insurance coverage for your IVF's? 

babystinkbreath

i am lucky to have insurance coverage for a couple more ER's.

BathingInBitter

I wish I could give you advice but considering that you had such a horrible experience with your last lap I would NOT do it unless it was crucial. I wouldn't want to go through that horrible experience all over again.

I'm sorry I'm no help. I wish I could better guide you. The reason I asked if you had coverage was because if you did, I would just continue with treatments... but that's just me. 

Good luck to ya hon. ((hugs)) I know that when the time is right you'll make the best decision for you and your family. 

 

amethystgrrl

I'm so sorry you're having to consider going through this for a second time. Hopefully your RE will consider your input and history in making his recommendations. Good luck at your wtf.

babystinkbreath

thanks ladies, I'm not sure what to do either.  I'm not even sure my RE will suggest this option I'm just freaking out about it.  I guess I should just wait to see what he says.grrr.... why does it have to be so hard for all of us.

MrsRumpf

Honey, I have been following this post because it mirrors my situation in many ways.

 Please please keep me posted as the the outcome of whatever you decide!

 ((HUGS)) 

babystinkbreath

MrsRumpf:

Honey, I have been following this post because it mirrors my situation in many ways.

 Please please keep me posted as the the outcome of whatever you decide!

 ((HUGS)) 

Mrsrumpf, your earlier post is what made me think oh $*&@, I may have to consider this again.  I so hate the idea of going thru this again.  Esp now that all my insides have been moved around and are not in the same place anymore it makes me scared that I am at an even higher risk of the same thing happening again.  Besides the fact that i have adhesions covering all my organs making it harder to see whats what. 

 I will def keep you updated and please let me know what goes on with you.