I'm afraid this is going to be the norm until the papers get changed.
Yesterday BM told DH he could pick up SS at her dads house or not get him at all. (Knowing he wanted to meet at the pd in that town - a whole three blocks from her dads house) But while we could debate that in court later, it still came down to if we wanted to see him we had to go to her dads.
When DH picked him up he told her we would be at the pd at 8, she shut the door in his face. She tried to have another texting war saying how dh was to bring ss back to her like the papers say...I just don't know what papers she was reading, because ours don't say that!
So we got to the pd at 5 till 8, and DH went in to give them a brief version of the story, and just let them know we were there, since she would probably be calling. 8:15 bm texts that dh is late and she is filing contempt. 8:20 the pd calls saying to go ahead and come in and talk to an officer, she had called.
Not going to lie, we kind of thought we were screwed when we saw it was a woman officer, we thought for sure she'd take BMs side. But she was great. VERY professional (gasp! Maybe she should give lessons to the dept we dealt with last time!) She actually took the time to ask what the papers said, why we wanted to meet there, and why BM wouldn't (although even BM can't answer that one!)
I think she started to "take our side" a bit more after BM wouldn't answer her calls either. So she gave us an escort over to her dads, but told us to stay in the car, she was going to give her a stern talking to and tell her to quite playing games. Unfortunatly we couldn't hear the conversation on the front step, but we could tell by body language BM was p!ssed. We could tell the officer wasn't being exceptionally nice either. I don't mean this in a way of "we got back at BM for the other night" it was just nice to feel like we had someone to listen to our side, and that someone neutral seemed to agree with us. By the time all of this was done, it was an hour and a half after the drop off time...and only 7 hours from the time I had to be at work this morning!
And a sad side story...Trying to figure out what to do (about the situation) all evening, DH and I text each other. SS has never heard a word about the papers or any of this from us. But as we were sitting in the car at the pd he says "Daddy, you should make the papers say I can come to your house" It just broke my heart. Yet somehow, most judges in this state would find it "in the best interest of the child" for DH to not have any more visitation...*big sigh*
Re: Another night with police involved
UGH! WHAT A PAIN IN THE ASS.
HUGS!!!!
We did get her name, but there is no guarentee she will be on duty in the future. And now I'm sure BM will be even less likely to agree to meet at that pd. Which is only going to cause more drama....