Physically exhausted. Question too..

ArcticFox

I am sooo tired.  I spent the day chasing the kids around.  DD had preschool today but the baby is teething.  I don't think I sat down for more than a few moments here and there today.

So a related question.. DH works a lot, and his job is stressful.  Today he came home and then he was working on his own stuff.  I wanted to ask him to help me watch the kids but he was grumpy and absorbed in his own stuff (school work and projects).  

What do you / would you do / in this kind of situation?  My legs are so tired, I'm just exhausted from chasing the kids around all day, and the baby clung to me all day long so I held her for a good portion of the day.  Plus I'm still nursing so I think that is draining me.  I feel like I never get to eat or go to the bathroom without the kids hanging from me or eating on the go.

I sort of feel like DH doesn't understand - but I also don't want to make him feel like he doesn't work!  I just desperately need to sit down for like 15 minutes.. he sat at a desk all day and goes to a really nice place for lunch.. I don't want to sound like a jerk!

Halo79RN

talk to him.  tell him you need 15 minutes sometime in the evening, before dc go to bed just to get away... take a walk around the block, take a bubble bath (and lock the door).  just explain that you know he's been working all day but you just need a little break. he should be able to handle 15-30minutes a day....  or try to schedule some alone time , fun grown up stuff for yourself on a day he does not work (if that day exists).  

after ds (my #2) was born... I signed up for a local cardio aerobics class. it was one night a week.  for an hour.  he put the kids to bed. it was such a relief!

hang in there, it gets better.  

leendunn

I would def talk to him. I would just tell him that you appreciate all that he does and you know that he has had a busy/stressful day but that you are extremely exhausted. Maybe just ask him to keep an eye on them while you take a quite bath, or sit in your room and read a book, or call a friend.

Some times this doesn't work though my DS has special needs and most of my time is spent at appointments or with teachers, after all of these he is cranky and exhausted then I am chasing around the puppy and trying to keep the house from falling down. Finally, I signed up for a Zumba class with my gf, it's an hour every Tues and Thurs, I told my DH that I was attending these classes and he makes sure he's home on time and actually keeps and eye on my gf's son. Its only two hours a week but it truly makes a big difference!

lhuttlinger

honestly, if I was in that situation I would cry!

hmmm. maybe your dh needs a transition time when he gets home to put him self in "home mode" instead if "work mode." Can you make a deal with him and say, "at 6:30 i need you to be fully in charge of the kids for 30 minutes so that I have a moment to myself. Please and Thank you."  Sometimes I just hand DH our DS and walk away and say "I need a break!" That could work too!