You DO know that...

juwee

"...you have to have intercourse to get pregnant, correct?"

How embarrassing. That was the actual statement from the person I see who goes over my charting!!!  It's not that we are not trying, it's just pretty difficult when my husband works 60 hour shifts at the firehouse and I work 24-36 hour shifts there also. Never fails he is working when I am off and vice versa. I TRY to schedule time off together when I am "supposed" to O, but it NEVER works out. GRR!!

Soo, I am considering putting a sign up sheet at the station for the guys to volunteer. This is getting rediculous!!

 

Nova726

Who goes over your charting? Nobody ever looked at mine except the RE.  I always prayed that he wouldn't say anything, mine was always the same way as yours. I explained from my first appt that I was sure timing was a part of the problem, we always worked opposite shifts and only saw each other on the weekend.

kerrbear72

Hopefully they were just trying to lighten the mood because that sounds a tad inappropriate to me. I may just be overly sensitive

juwee

A separate person goes over my charting. She is (ironically enough) my RE's MIL. She goes over it first to make sure I used the appropriate stickers and totals my mucus score (Whatever the heck that is...) so that when I take it to the RE he can look at it and decide treatments based on my consistency, length of LP and "quality" of CM.

And Kerrbear, I was pretty embarrassed when she said something about it, but then again she assumed we were like "normal" couples that have 9-5 jobs and were home together every night/all weekend. So I guess from her perspective, it didn't make any sense why we were TTC and NOT humping 24/7 during my "peak type mucus". And the fact that she is about 4'8" , 70 years old and MAYBE 80 lbs soaking wet, it was hard for me to think she was being snarky. 

But I will say, it made for a good laugh after the fact!!  And also, it has made  me feel a *little* better after so many BFN's because in the back of my mind I am thinking that it's not that there is something "wrong", but the fact that SOOOO much depends on timing. NWIM?

andrea1103

That's annoying!  DH and I work opposite shifts too.  He works 7 pm - 7 am and his days off can be any day during the week.  So needless to say timing isn't always on our side either. We definitely do the best we can though!

mrsarjiltobe

I have the same problem. I work nights, and DH works days. We have every other weekend off together. I don't see much point in trying all the time, if I already know I'm not O'ing. I can't get pregnant if there is no egg to fertilize!