Why do sibling names have to "go" together?

HoverMo · August 2010

Can someone explain this concept to me? For real. I don't understand what one would have to do with the other. I can only think of two cases wher one sibs name would have a bearing on any others...

1- If it would make some cutesy or corny reference (ie like Gillian Anderson's two sons...Oscar and Felix (yes that is their names) ).

2- POSSIBLY would be a little weird if one kids name went left into an ethnic name that no one else in the family had (ie Bob Mary Ted and Pasquale).

I just see this question asked all over the place ... "My sons name is Cameron...does Liam or Peter go with it better for the new baby" Am I missing something...what makes names "go" together?

AutumnBride929 · August 2010

I have no idea and I'm glad you asked, lol. I find myself wondering the same thing... often.

sunnyday016 · August 2010

When I have another LO, I'll definitely take my daughter's name into account. Personally, I'd like them to go well together so when I call them to dinner I don't trip over my words :P

*Scuzzlebutt* · August 2010

I wouldn't dream of not taking my daughter's name into account when naming this baby. We chose an old-fashioned name for our daughter (Clara) and I think it would be ridiculous to name the new baby something trendy like Nevaeh or Braedyn (I don't even like names like that anyways, but that's an example)

Personally, I'd rather say, "These are my children - Clara & Elisabeth/William" than "Clara & Nevaeh/Braedyn". I think it just sounds better when siblings have names that go well together.

BelleBaby · August 2010

I think you should just pick names that you like. I would think that your tastes aren't going to change so dramatically that you'd name one kid Bob and the other Lemonjello (hee hee). You're probably going to pick names that sound fine together anyway without really trying.

For us, we just happened to end up with 2 Biblical names. We weren't really going after that pattern, but the two names we loved just happened to be Biblical. Actually, one of them has a FN and MN that are Biblical.

HoverMo · August 2010

Yeah but really... Your kids aren't going to be these tiny little subsets together 24/7 for life and lets say if you REALLY loved the name Neveah (whatever) are you not going to use it just because your first daughter's name is "classic". Like I said if its not something that is going to have the kid made fun of, I don't see the issue in naming you kids something like...James and Brayden.

HoverMo · August 2010

And thats another thing... face it, in most cases you are going to pick names in the same style anyway. Most people really aren't going to pick something totally out of left field unless they REALLY like it.

braveangel2 · August 2010

This gripe comes up once a week or so. It's their preference.

Here's one of the many threads that came up on the subject:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/40776195.aspx

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mbk5004 · August 2010

I just think it makes you go "aww", when you see a great named sibset.. It's very simple.

James and Braydon aren't terrible, but I dont go "awww"

strangebird · August 2010

Someone asks this question every week. The responses are always the same. A few people chime in to say that they don't understand it either. Several others will reply that they care very much that all of their children have similar names.

Personally, I am one of the people who will have a well-coordinated sibling set. They're of similar length, style, and rhythm; they fit neatly into the same category of names. They will, however, all begin with different letters and end with different sounds. Did it take a lot of thought to create our list? Absolutely. Did I have to veto names that didn't "go?" Yes.

I think a better question would be, why do so many people need to ask others if two names match? I think it should be apparent to everyone that Emiliana and Heather aren't really in the same category. Yet, every single day people post asking for similar comparisons.

brookelynpaisley · August 2010

Personally, I think people tend to like names that do "go" well together anyway, meaning they're the same style. I think it's weird that my name is Brooke and my sister's name is Megan. They don't coordinate: one is fairly umcommon, the other was #3 the year she was born. I've met only 3-4 people with the same name my whole life. My sister graduated high school with 6 other girls with the same name. I don't understand why my parents went with something somewhat unique for me, and went with one of the trendiest names of the era for my sister. I just find it odd when sibling names don't mesh. when we choose names, we will take style into consideration - we intend to choose names like mine: uncommon but not too out there.

nilly5 · August 2010

I've always wondered this. My brother & I have names so completely different (Daniel & I'm Nyla). I never really cared much about whether our names "meshed" well together. Since my sons name is Colby Ray, my names for next baby, I like the names Evan & Ryan for boys & Vivienne for a girl which is in a different catagory from Colby. Do they go well together? I don't know & don't really care. I don't hear Colby or Vivienne much where I live & that's what I'm going with.

Allie30 · August 2010

I don't think names need to match in style. I know a lot of folks who make deals with kids names like "i'll name the girls and you name the boys" and they end up with things like Rhiannon and Michael because one person has very traditional taste and the other doesn't.I think it's fine.

What I do think doesn't work well is when the names are matchy matchy -- like the above poster who wants to name her daughters Carly and Caroline. Emily and Amelia. Adam and Eve, stuff like that.

My husband and I have names that start with the same letter, so we threw out all names that started with that letter, as we don't want to feel trapped to give any subsequent children a name starting with that letter as well -- and we would, because we wouldn't want our second child to feel "left out" that she didn't get the family initials. Additionally, we crossed a name off our list that rhymes with our dog's name, because we think that would cause confusion... for the dog.

mcgee · August 2010

I think it's odd if the names are obviously different in style - like Clara and Nevaeh or James and Talon. I don't think names have to be matchy-matchy - I really dislike it if more than two kids in the family have names starting with the same letter - but I think the names should at least flow together.

Why? For the same reason I think the rooms in my home should flow together. It is disconcerting to walk into a home where a super modern kitchen opens into a French country living room. It's disconcerting to meet Alexander and Isabella and their little sister Corie-Lynn.

alohamora · August 2010

feffy11:
strangebird:
Someone asks this question every week. The responses are always the same. A few people chime in to say that they don't understand it either. Several others will reply that they care very much that all of their children have similar names.
Personally, I am one of the people who will have a well-coordinated sibling set. They're of similar length, style, and rhythm; they fit neatly into the same category of names. They will, however, all begin with different letters and end with different sounds. Did it take a lot of thought to create our list? Absolutely. Did I have to veto names that didn't "go?" Yes.
I think a better question would be, why do so many people need to ask others if two names match? I think it should be apparent to everyone that Emiliana and Heather aren't really in the same category. Yet, every single day people post asking for similar comparisons.
all of this.

Yes Yes I am getting tired of this question.

So Long Astoria · August 2010

To me, it just would be really "off" or weird to have a kid with a very classic name and then a really off-the-wall or trendy name. It just doesn't flow...like the kids don't belong to the same family or something.