worried about m/c

MrsSewall

Hey ladies,

I am 8 weeks 2 days.  I find my self consumed with worry that I will m/c.  It is my first pregnancy and for the most part I have felt ok.  I want to start telling people other than close family.  Are my odds getting better because I am in my 8th week?  Am I alone feeling like this?

Scout05

Of course you are not alone in feeling like this. Every pregnant woman on the planet worries about miscarrying. If you have no symptoms or other reason to think your pregnancy is going to end, you have to just try and relax.

Sure, your chances get better as the pregnancy goes forward. But a loss can happen any time. I know women who carried to full term and still lost their angels. I don't say that to be mean, that's just reality.

Bottom line, if there is someting wrong with the pregnancy, there is something wrong. Numbers and stats don't really mean anything when it happens to you.

Today you are pregnant and you love your baby. That's all you can focus on.

Hannie417

Yah your chances are diminishing as every day passes.  We are all in the same boat.  Just think positive and enjoy your pregnancy.  I read that after 8 weeks your chances of m/c is down to as low as 3% and at 12 weeks its down to 1%.  You will be ok, just think positive.  Keep your stress down and in a short 3 in a half weeks you will feel much better when you can tell everyone. :-)

yellowbabybuggy

Hang in there.  It gets easier as you get farther along.  The worry I mean.  This is my first pregnancy.  I have two beautiful boys and had one mc.  You are not alone in worry.  I think many women worry in the early weeks. 

 There are two schools of thought regarding telling people.  My husband and I told everyone pretty much right away with this one.  The first school of thought is that you don't want to tell people in case something happens, the second, (the one we go with), is that if people know then they can support you if something does happen.  I guess it just depends on how private of a person you are.  

 Just take care of yourself the best you can (I know it is hard when you are feeling sick), and be excited.  You're growing a baby!

normajeane6126

ambrandau2:

Of course you are not alone in feeling like this. Every pregnant woman on the planet worries about miscarrying. If you have no symptoms or other reason to think your pregnancy is going to end, you have to just try and relax.

Sure, your chances get better as the pregnancy goes forward. But a loss can happen any time. I know women who carried to full term and still lost their angels. I don't say that to be mean, that's just reality.

Bottom line, if there is someting wrong with the pregnancy, there is something wrong. Numbers and stats don't really mean anything when it happens to you.

Today you are pregnant and you love your baby. That's all you can focus on.

This hits the nail on the head. Don't dwell on all the things that could go wrong, you will drive yourself insane. 

bonniewallace

I try to remember that the odds are in our favor.  Most pregnancies carry to term, and especially if you are 8 weeks your odds are pretty low.  Of course a loss could happen at any time.  My brother was a stillbirth.  I know how you feel being super scared...I was like that the first week or so, but the ladies on here really helped me calm down and realize that I have no reason to think that I'm going to have a m/c, I just need to stay positive, take it one day at a time, and realize that I have a WAY better chance of having a healthy pregnancy than a m/c.

*hugs and smiles*

akating

You are not alone at all. I feel the same way. The one thing that I keep telling myself is to cut it out though because if I am worried all the time it can be bad for the baby. try your best to stay positive and think about how amazing your baby will be when it is born. the more happy and healthy thoughts you have the better it is for your baby. worrying wont get you anywhere.

 

just remember we are all here for you if you need us. i know the hormones dont help with the feelings either and so one day you might be worried and the next really excited.  just hang in there and feel free to chat if you need us.

shanatait2be

You are definitely not alone! I worried with my DS and now I am worrying with this one, but more than I did the first time. I guess my eyes are just a little more open to reality than they were two years ago. My cousin, who I am super close with, has had two MC recently. They were both after IUFs. She and her hubby have taken a break for a while now. Trying to get her health back in order and her Prog levels up. SO, I guess it makes it a little more realisitic for me now.

So I am trying to stay positive. We have no reason to think we will MC. Like all of the above posts have stated!

Thank you for posting this and for all of the comments in response. They have helped ease my worry as well!

mrswagoner

Thanks for posting this! I worry about a m/c all the time, even though I have no signs of an impending one. Just try to stay calm and be thankful for the growing baby in your belly. Stay positive!

MrsSewall

Thanks everyone!  Usually I am the one telling other people to think positive.  I have been trying but like you said, pregnancy hormones are crazy! 

 I will just try and stay calm.  I am not an overly private person so I think I may start telling more people now.  I will need their support if something happens or just in general when I am having a hormone burst and need to vent! 

 

Thanks again!  

jnmheim

I feel like this every single day since I found out. And this is my 3rd child.

cassiejo84

jnmheim:

I feel like this every single day since I found out. And this is my 3rd child.

 

Same here

landa46

Wow, I was starting to feel like I was alone in this thinking! What encouragement I found in these posts. I have had a few scares myself and worry about it all of the time (even as I write this). I try to think positively but sometimes seeing the spots or feeling the cramps...well, it's discouraging. However, there are women who have had worse symptoms that I am having who had healthy babies. It really is so individualized. I wish you the best and hope the time passes by quickly for you so you can be in a less worrisome state when baby is out of 1st trimester!

drsteph55

I'm also pregnant with my first and have been very anxious about a m/c ever since I found out. As everyone else has said I think it's very normal. It's almost like the more information you have the more you can freak yourself out! Not to push religion, but what has helped me some is to talk to God and turn it over to him when I feel myself starting to get really worked up. Best wishes for a fantastic pregnancy!! 

krisnogard

So glad that I am not alone!! I have been feeling the same way - but I am only 4 weeks! I had bloodwork monday and my hcg was 99 and today it only went up 66% to 165. My doctor wants to do another one on Friday. This will be my first.. I am so nervous and dont know if I should tell people or not.My husband wants to tell our whole family but I am so nervous!!