What did you do to stay calm

ams8099

I feel like I have been living beta to beta and now from u/s to u/s. How do/did you keep calm and remind yourself that everything is ok?

At what point did you feel like you could relax. Please tell me it was before the end of your 1st tri. I don't want to feel like a basket case for 9 more weeks!

I have my first u/s Friday. Did seeing your baby and the heartbeat help? 

nikinikinine

I started to calm down after my u/s at ~9 wks. I felt officially calm last week when I painted our nursery and put together our cribs (16 wks). Sorry that's not helpful.

I think from week 5 to week 9 wasn't so bad b/c I had three u/s (one every two weeks) but the jump from week 9 to week 13 was awful b/c I had to wait 4 weeks for an u/s and that seemed like FORever.  

ams8099

I think I will have one ever two weeks from 6 wks until 10. I think that is when I will graduate to my OB. 

I am dying to know how many and if it/they are OK. I just keep reminding myself that I have strong beta.  

I probably sound like a nut job! 

nikinikinine

nope you sound like an IFer in the first tri. Welcome to the crazy club

ams8099

So I'm not totally off my rocker? 

newsbaby

ams8099:

So I'm not totally off my rocker? 

I personally don't think so! I think IF makes us so different from regular pg people. 

ams8099

newsbaby:

ams8099:

So I'm not totally off my rocker? 

I personally don't think so! I think IF makes us so different from regular pg people. 

Yeah, I had a few friends and my SIL announce at like 6 weeks. No way. I guess I also like having it as our little secret. Although I did tell me 18 month old niece that I was having a baby. Nobody else was in the room.

Dragonfly1226

I might not be the best person to ask about this since my first pregnancy ended in a later miscarriage after we had already seen a healthy HB.

With this pregnancy I started to calm down a little after my NT scan at 11.5 weeks. At that point the baby looked like a baby and was moving around. I didn't start to really feel more comfortable until after my last appointment at 13.5 weeks when we heard the HB again.

But seeing a healthy HB does always help, and I think it was more of a gradual release of anxiety rather than an all at once thing.

Good luck at your u/s! 

cookie_queen

nikinikinine:

nope you sound like an IFer in the first tri. Welcome to the crazy club

This. I finally am starting to feel a little calmer about everything after a fantastic n/t scan on Friday.

Babsie7

nikinikinine:

nope you sound like an IFer in the first tri. Welcome to the crazy club

This. I used my IVF meditation CD A LOT during the 1st tri, it did help calm me a bit.

OceanBreeze1

honestly, staying away from the boards helped me relax! other than that, i relaxed a bit after seeing the h/b. i was pretty good after my 10wk u/s, then fully good after the 14wk u/s. i know its hard, but things are looking good for you so *try* not to worry too much! (hugs)

ams8099

*OceanBreeze*:

honestly, staying away from the boards helped me relax! other than that, i relaxed a bit after seeing the h/b. i was pretty good after my 10wk u/s, then fully good after the 14wk u/s. i know its hard, but things are looking good for you so *try* not to worry too much! (hugs)

I'm really careful about what I open and read.  

acmclean

I'm right there with ya!  I have been through 3 betas now and waiting to do an US this week and I am driving myself nuts too!  I guess its just part of the process.  Good luck and congrats!

wiscgirl95

ams8099:

So I'm not totally off my rocker? 

Not at all.  I started to feel better after my NT scan, even more relaxed after my big U/S . . . but I still check use my doppler almost every night.  I think I'll really feel better once I get beyond 24 weeks . . . maybe.  It's hard.  I hope you can feel more relaxed soon.

SNB2B

ams8099:

So I'm not totally off my rocker? 

Not at all. I am pretty much miserable. I saw the heartbeat and it freaked me out more. I don't feel calm and I know that I won't calm down until I'm out of 1st tri. I know that's sad but it's the truth.  IF changes you. I will never have the pregnancy of a "regular" person.I hope you find a way to manage your nerves and if you do let me know!