Did you accompany DH to tell the in-laws?

JenWhite123

I am not at all close to my in-laws (DH really isn't, either). We plan on telling both sides next week after our 1st ultrasound.  I really don't want to go with him to tell his parents.  Is that tacky or rude? 

Disneygeek77

Unless they are really mean to you I would just suck it up and go. 

bakemecakes

We just called both sides, even though one is local and one is out of town.

6fsn

My first reaction is you aren't going to get any closer by not going together.  Unless they are down right mean to you or your husband I would go. 

ams8099

Be the bigger person and go with and share the news. 

Tehilas Mom

6fsn:

My first reaction is you aren't going to get any closer by not going together.  Unless they are down right mean to you or your husband I would go. 

 i totally agree if you cant go together then maybe trying calling instead

OscarQ

I went the first time - in fact, we're not close at all - but I was really excited to tell them.  DH is their only married child so any grandkids will come from us for the next 10 years probably.

I didn't go with him this time - he actually wasn't intending to tell them but got excited and it slipped out. 

LadyXaverian

I was there when DH told his parents, but I have a good relationship with them. I can't imagine sending him to tell them alone.

I would either go with a phone call from your husband or be there with him when he tells them.

MG7

I didn't last time and I won't this time. My DH isn't close with them either.

yesthisiskim

I'm not close with any of my I-L's either. But of course I always put on a happy face and play nice. Luckily enough, my IL's live in Florida. My husband decided to tell his mother on her birthday (Aug. 9th) against my knowledge or wishes. We planned on telling both sets of parents at the same time so there would be no arguing or hurt feelings.

It was great that I didn't have to tell them the news, but my husband was in the doghouse for a few days because of his actions (and because of my rollercoastering hormones).

My advice is to do what feels best. If you are really uncomfortable talking to them, let your husband do the work (he is their son after all). But remember that this will be their grandchild and maybe making a small peace offering (such as telling them the news together) wouldn't be so bad after all.