I have to stay away from the 0-3 month board

JillAly

It's so funny being back on that board but as a 2nd time mom.  The things that they get up in arms about crack me up- mostly as being totally unrealistic.  I hope I wasn't that way last time.  Anyone else been on a young baby board and know what I mean?  I didn't realize how far removed I was from the infant world until I recently went back on it.

I just read a post where a woman complained about her 10 1/2 week old not sleeping through the night.  I expected the responses to be "what?  Sleep through the night at 2 1/2 months?" but instead, they were complaining that their own babies weren't sleeping through the night.  Seriously?  At 2 1/2 or 3 months they EXPECT their baby to sleep through the night? 

brittneycc1982

I totally know what you mean!  I actually didn't discover the Bump until M was 4 months old and I am SOO glad!  I would have drove myself CRAZY thinking about all the crap they do!  They compare their babies to the others on here and that's not good when you are a new first time mommy.  All newborns are sooo different.

neverblushed

I think there are many wonderful things about community boards, but what you're describing isn't one of them!

Another example is that I feel like the anti-vax crowd comes across with an especially loud voice on baby bulletin boards.  No one who is pro-vax is really banging their pro-vax drum about it on a message board.  But it's easy for new moms to get the idea that pretty much everyone questions whether to vax or not from the vocal few who are outspokenly anti-vax.  In reality, the vast majority of people believe in routine vaccinations.

PaigeC1981

Lol, yep I know what you mean. IRL, I am always surprised when new moms tell me their LO sttn at a very young age. I think P was around 9 months old when he started sttn.

lite-bright

I'm on 3-6 and I know exactly what you mean. All the when-to-start-solids, why-isn't-my-baby-rolling-yet, CIO-vs-non-CIO, FF-vs-BFing debates ... I just can't bring myself to get worked up over them.

Mostly I want to tell them that in two years, nobody's probably going to be able to tell which of those choices they made, so don't get all defensive. Because I think it's true and most of that stuff evens out over time.  

And I totally see how these boards can give people a mommy complex if it seems like everybody else's baby is STTN, perfectly behaved and super advanced in terms of milestones. But that's across any of the boards, not just the baby ones.

Erika6504

I just moved over to 3-6 and it is very crazy.  The stuff that people worry about just isn't important.  I don't think any of us were that clueless the first time around

BrideforKen

And, they are freaking me out over there! You are right I need to stay away. I should know better but they have me second guessing things.

JillAly

neverblushed:

I think there are many wonderful things about community boards, but what you're describing isn't one of them!

Another example is that I feel like the anti-vax crowd comes across with an especially loud voice on baby bulletin boards.  No one who is pro-vax is really banging their pro-vax drum about it on a message board.  But it's easy for new moms to get the idea that pretty much everyone questions whether to vax or not from the vocal few who are outspokenly anti-vax.  In reality, the vast majority of people believe in routine vaccinations.

You're right- the vaccine debate is a good example!

CarolinaKatie

Whenever I post to the 0-3 board, I usually phrase the subject to address moms of 2 or more!

Yes, cracks me up when there are STTN questions on that board! I remember one post where someone was flamed for leaving her 6 week old crying in the swing after she had been alone with 2 kids all weekend. The baby had colic and she put him in the swing so she could sit down and eat her dinner. People went OFF on her. But she said it was a last resort. She had to eat! She had to feed her older child too. Sometimes you have to let the baby cry and we know from experience that it is not the end of the world if they cry for a few minutes!

BerriGirl

CarolinaKatie:

Whenever I post to the 0-3 board, I usually phrase the subject to address moms of 2 or more!

Yes, cracks me up when there are STTN questions on that board! I remember one post where someone was flamed for leaving her 6 week old crying in the swing after she had been alone with 2 kids all weekend. The baby had colic and she put him in the swing so she could sit down and eat her dinner. People went OFF on her. But she said it was a last resort. She had to eat! She had to feed her older child too. Sometimes you have to let the baby cry and we know from experience that it is not the end of the world if they cry for a few minutes!

acppa

cmeon_the_water:

It's definitely a different experience the second time around.

I agree 100%!