cheer me up please...nanny resigning

kkramer99

So, the nanny we hired after our last one resigned for a higher paying job is someone whom we just LOVE. DD loves her. It's been so great.

Well, she broke up w/ her boyfriend, moved out of their apt, and has been living here and there (including our guest rm) for 2 mos. She has now decided to move up to Santa Rosa (2 hrs away) to be closer to her family to recover from the loss of that relationship and get her life together.

DH is saying he wants us to send DD to preschool/daycare now - she's 2 and 3 mos, and frankly, I think she will likely benefit from having more interaction w/ other children, but I can't help feeling so SAD about this. Everything was going so great. And our master plan was to send her to preschool when she was three, and let her be a baby at home as long as possible.

Ugh.

kkramer99

I know I sound like a whiner, but this just hits me out of nowhere.

The rational part of my brain tells me that DD is too young to feel that much sadness/loss at times of transition - that this affects me more than her...etc.

But, she's leaving my BABY!!!

samanthahollman

i'm sorry!! =o(

Putting your DD in a daycare would be a good idea.  The socialization she would receive in itself is a great plus. However, there are many more amazing things that come along with a daycare. (oh, BTW, I used to work at one, in which my DD also attended).

It is a really scary step, but something that she'll never forget. She'll make great friends and learn LOTS of great things.

 If you do decide on a daycare/preschool, make sure you shop around. Get every detail and make sure they have a license.  

 

GOOD LUCK!!! =o) 

roseroseroseroserose

It is so sad when everything is going great and then BAM! you have to change everything. We had a wonderful sitter move out of state and I was devastated. I felt like I would never find another person who was THAT great. (((hugs)))

kkramer99

Thanks -

I had a good cry last night - I told DH, "I don't want to see the silver lining right now. I just want to be sad and get it out of my system."

I feel much better as a consequence.

She's giving us a month's notice, which is good. I do think DD is at a point where she craves the companionship of other children - she's been very social at the park or at her Music Together class. I just can't picture her sleeping in a room w/ a bunch of other kids, when she's slept alone in her own crib (still) since she was tiny. Among other things.

Yeah, things were going so great here. They'll be great in a different way - just have to get through the transition.

SymphonyGirl

I know exactly how you feel.  A little over a year ago, our son's nanny had her marriage fall apart.  Her husband cheated on her and told her he didn't want to be with her anymore.  Understandably, she decided to move closer to her family, but about 4 hours away from us.  We were really sad--she was great.   

Also, just a few weeks ago, our own family relocated from South Carolina to Iowa.  We left behind an AMAZING nanny who we all just loved.  I begged her to come with us on more than one occasion, but she was not interested in Iowa winters.    We have someone new who just started with us this week and she seems like she will be really good, but I just LOVED our last nanny and I miss her a lot.   DD has had kind of a tough time with the transition, but DS has jumped right in and is excited to have a new friend in the new nanny.. He's going to start half day Montessori preschool next week, so that's another big transition for him, but, he is very excited about it and I am hopeful that he'll keep cruising through all these changes pretty smoothly. 

Good luck with everything--I'm sure your DD will love getting to go to school and all will be well, but I know it's hard when it's not what you were expecting!