NPAIFR- my stepmother is a real gem (long vent)

mrslovebug · August 2010

I am so glad the woman is not actually related to me. She is my stepdad's new wife, and until they got married, she acted like a nice, normal person. Since then (1 year ago), she has been an annoying nightmare. Everything is about her. If it happened to you, it happened to her, but worse. She always finds the best discounts and people always give her extra savings at stores. She constantly plays the victim. She is so condescending toward my grandma, it makes me nuts (she reprimands my 70-something year old grandma for parking in the driveway or cutting an onion the "wrong'' way). No matter WHAT conversation I have with her, the next day without fail, she calls me to inform me that I somehow insulted her. GIVE ME A BREAK!

For example, two days ago I visited my parents who are in the process of moving. I mentioned that my sister has to take her grandfather clock which was left to her in my other grandmother's will and now needs to be moved out of the house it has been sitting in for the last 10 years. My stepmother suggested my sister SELL the clock because ''my stepdad doesn't want old fashioned furniture in the new house''. UM, hello?!? This is an inherited clock. Not like she randomly picked up a clock off the curb on garbage day, lady! Needless to say, I got a little snippy with her and said it is only fair that they help my sister find a place for it- her room, the garage, the basement in my grandma's suite. Then I asked if the kids (my sister and her son) have been to the house to pick their bedrooms.

So she called me yesterday to say how I was out of line ''dictating'' where and what she should put things in HER new house and it is up to her and my stepdad which room they choose for her son to sleep in and my sister to sleep in. At that point I just said '' I don't care! I was making conversation!'' I hate that I always have to appologize to this woman and to make matters worse, my stepdad is so passive that he defends her just about every time. UGH!

Thanks for reading my vent if you got this far.

ashonkwiler09 · August 2010

I'm sorry hon. The stories you tell me about her just keep getting worse and worse. I wish she wasn't such a b*tch. Hugs xoxo

eyenerd · August 2010

That sucks!!!! I think i would just try and let her not affect you and speak your mind. Sometimes they need to be put in their place.

My MIL likes to make everything about her and i find the best way to deal with her is not to be too friendly. When i go out of my way, she becomes a lunatic!