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So Tragic

lindeenweddinglindeenwedding member
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Eric's cousin is 38 weeks pregnant, due August 18th. She found out yesterday the baby has no heartbeat. They were waiting to find out what they were having but found out yesterday their little girl will never take a breath. They had tried for two years to get pregnant. I am just devastated for them. They will wait for a few days to see if she goes into labor naturally otherwise they will induce. I just can't imagine having that baby inside yet knowing it is not alive and just waiting.

I want to tell them about the  Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep Foundation, but I don't want to sound creepy suggesting this to random family members that may talk to her, and I don't feel its anywhere in my place to call her up myself.

What does one even do besides send a card? They are about an hour and a 1/2 away so bringing them meals is out... Any ideas? 

ETA- Eric talked to her sister who is at the hospital with them and told them about the NILMDTS foundation. I am glad we were able to reach out and give them this option. I know if it were me I would have been devastated to find out about it after it was too late. Whether or not they do it I am glad they know about it, but it sounds like they were interested. 

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  • MrsBlayneMrsBlayne member
    That is so terrible. I just can't imagine, and especially the waiting. As far as what to do, maybe wait and see if they need financial help for a service , or if they ask for donations to be made in her name somewhere? That's the only idea I have.
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  • nataliejp519nataliejp519
    I am so very sorry!  That is heartbreaking.  I am keeping your cousin and all your family in my T&Ps.
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  • Lisa7Lisa7 member
    Oh my gosh, how awful. I can't even imagine. They are in my t&p. I think pp suggestion is good too
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  • AshleysredAshleysred
    Wow.  That is tragic.  I have no words.  I think Blayne's idea was a good one.
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  • dani_girl08dani_girl08
    That makes me sick to my stomach. I cannot even imagine.  Sending them lots of T&Ps.  That's great that you were able to share the NILMDTS info with them.  
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  • MelVicMelVic
    How sad....this exact thing happened to my friend's SIL and she had to walk around very pregnant knowing the baby was not alive...She would not even leave her house in fear of ppl asking her about the pregnancy...And the fact that they make you deliver is sooooooo sad..I think I would rather a C-section at that point just to get it over and done with.....My heart is breaking for them!!!!
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  • Kahtie41Kahtie41
    I'm so sorry, that is just awful!  I can't imagine what she must be going through.  I think pp's made a good suggestion about how to help, but is nice that you guys were able to direct them to NILMDTS.  My T&P's are with them.
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  • natalie115natalie115 member
    That is just awful...t&ps for them

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  • DreamsBride411DreamsBride411 member
    Omg.... I am sick for them over this. Major thoughts and prayers to the family. And I'm so glad they know about NILMDTS. Such an amazing organization.
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  • Mrs.S_0909Mrs.S_0909
    Lots of T&P for them. That is so awful.
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  • Ms.Beachbum08Ms.Beachbum08
    I can't even imagine.  Especially after trying for 2 years.  Thoughts and prayers are with them right now.
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  • DanielleB1978DanielleB1978

    This is so terribly sad.  I'll be saying prayers for them.

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