Have you and YH talked about who will, or will not be invited into the delivery room?
We decided we want to be alone for the first day just to enjoy our little one alone and celebrate our new family together (while we have the help of the hospital staff). We plan to not tell anyone we are going to the hospital so there won't be any surprise visitors.
I can't wait for that day!!
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We haven't talked about it yet, but now that you mention it.. I think this will be our topic of discussion tonight!
I am SUPER close to my mom, I know with out a doubt I will be calling her like on our way to the hospital. She knows so much about our struggles with TTC now, that I would just have to call her as soon as I could.
I am interested to see what everyone else says on this since I just never had thought that far out.
Good question! I don't want anyone in the room with me during delivery other than DH. I have a mom, stepmom, and a mother in law. I can't pick just one and I don't want (and probably can't have) that many people in the room with me.
As for after delivery, if its all normal I'm pretty sure my/Dh's family will be there waiting or shortly after delivery. I'm hoping friends will visit at some point while I'm in the hospital too. It's going to be such a huge event if I ever actually get pregnant that I just want to share it with everyone asap.
Once we get home from the hospital, I might want a few days to DH and myself though. Just to get acclimated to our new family.
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Best of Luck getting to "that day"
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My mom was with me when I had DD (along with my BFF at the time and DD's dad) - although I was young and I really wanted my mom with me. It's now 20 years later and would still kind of like my mom to be there. I'm not sure if she'll want to though. Obviously, DH will be there and possibly DD, since she is technically an adult.
Definately not my MIL though!! I can't imagine she would want to be there, but even if she did there is just no way I would be comfortable with that. After the baby is born, I will want some time for just DH and I and baby to bond. I am sure we will allow visitors later in the day though.
DH. Maybe mom. Depends on if she makes a fuss about wanting to be there. I'm pretty neutral on her being there and MIL passed away years ago so I don't have a lot of people beating down the door to be in the room with me.
That said, I don't expect and wouldn't want family to stay away for a full day (or more) afterward. I remember how excited I was when my sister and DH's cousins (close as siblings) had their babies- I was crushed when my mom told me I wouldn't be able to come visit my sister for a day or two- I wanted to meet my niece so badly. DH's cousins set up a phone chain to announce "on the way to the hospital" and births and we'll do the same and who ever shows up is welcome to help us celebrate
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It will just be DH and I. Although, I may have my sister come in as she will have experienced L&D by the time I get PG.
We will refuse to tell the IL's until the baby is born. My MIL can be a drama freak and my FIL is never helpful
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Exactly this. My family is all drama and they make everything about them. Plus my brother had so many random people going back and forth through my SILs delivery room when my niece was born two years ago that I made up my mind to keep them out. You would not believe the dozens of visitors he teted with info. WHen I arrived one night his ex-coworker and new girlfriend were waiting out in the hall for SIL to finish breastfeeding. No thank you!
I'm glad there are some people out there who are super close to their families and want everyone there with them, but my family is nuts so I'll pass.
My mom was there with us when I had my DD. She stayed in the room the entire time (she even shared the pullout bed with MH) except when they took me for the emergency c-section. It was awesome having her there and DH loved it too.
This time around I will have a planned c-section so it will be different. My mom will probably stay at our house to help take care of DD and just visit us in the hospital.
Just my husband. I want to be able to focus and I would be distracted by our mothers, my sister, etc. They are all drama mongers.
I would secretly like DH to wait in the lobby because he's a hoverer and I DO NOT like being hovered over when I'm in pain. He's also afraid of needles so I'm afraid he'll pass out and the medical staff will have to deal with him. He'd probably be okay with this if he wouldn't catch so much crap.
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While I'm in labor, I don't care who is there. DH, my mom, and my sister will def be there. I'm sure my MIL will stop by. Maybe DH's aunt since they are really close (his godmother).
Once I start to push it will only be DH, my mom and my sister. My DH will probably faint, so I need someone else there, haha! Afterwards, I'm sure we will have a lot of visitors and to be honest, I want them!
We haven't discussed it, but I'm sure it will be just the two of us. I would like my sister (who is also a nurse) to be there, but I've never told her. In my Province they only allow the parents and one of the grandparents to be in the L & D room (for safety purposes).
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OK, I'm late to the party but I like this question!
It will probably just be me and DH. I would really want one of my sisters with me, but if I asked her and not my mom, my other sister and my SIL they would probably never forgive me.
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Ditto to that! If ANYONE else, maybe my twin sister, but then again - the other 2 sisters would feel left out - so someone would end up pissed off.