I posted about this awhile ago, but I think I left part of the story out.
My BFF who now lives in CA is getting married here in Missouri in October. It's about 2 hours from where we live. I'm in her wedding. The only other mom in the wedding is her sister and her daughter is 13 ... so I am the only bridesmaid with a young child/infant.
She does not want babies at the wedding/reception. Period. No exceptions.
I was not aware of this until very recently - seeing as I had incorrectly assumed my DD would be welcome because a) I am part of the bridal party, b) she is an infant, c) I (hopefully) will still be breastfeeding
So ... I will have to be gone away from my DD for an entire weekend when she is 13 months old. I am not okay with this. I am not ready to be away from her that long, and while the prospect of getting a full night of uninterrupted sleep seems like heaven right now, I just start welling up every time I think about being away from her that long. I expressed this passive-agressively in an email a couple days ago, and she didn't budge on me needing to bring DD. I told her my DH was going to have to stay home with her and she was like, why?! Can't you get a sitter? Can't he drive SEPARATELY on the day of the wedding and do a 4 hour round trip and leave her at home?
My parents are going to be out of town that weekend, and besides, DD is too much for them to take on for a weekend. DD has never been away from both of us for more than about 15 hours one night when they watched her when DH was super sick and I had to work.
DH is NOT going to drive separately on that long of a trip.
I am so frustrated with all of this.
I want to be a part of her wedding, but I am just not ready to be away from my daughter for that long. I'll do it, but I am so sad at the prospect.
Should I just shut up and be a good bridesmaid?
FWIW, DH says he is not going to come along with DD and hole up in a hotel for the weekend with her.