What do I need to do to have scheduled visitation established?

belle204

I agreed to let dd go to the beach w/DB and her siblings. She would love to see them and, of course, a break would be nice. I didn't have the email with the dates so I asked him so I can plan accordingly with work & my sister (babysit for her). He wrote back with the date they are leaving so I asked when they would be back. This fool told me "through Wed. or Thur. or whenever I decide it's over" and "we need to figure out when I can get her not when it's over." Um, yes, we do douchetwat. I want a concrete date I can expect my child back for my peace-of-mind as well as needing to know for work. Is that really too much for me to ask? I agreed to fly her there on my off day and he can pay for her fare (I fly free, hers is discounted). I have been making such an effort lately to be cordial and non-b*tchy with him and thought we were doing well. I'm starting to feel the urge to want to shank him again. I would love if we could just set visits up on our own but he apparently can't do it with cooperation.

r9stedt

Lawyer, parenting agreement.  While you are there, revisit his child support.

 

Just remember, when you have a custody agreement in place, sadly it doesn't mean they have to follow it. KWIM?  He could just not pick her up for the weekend etc.  I don't know what type of enforcement is in your state, but in mine it is minimal for that.

belle204

I don't know how to say this w/o it sounding awful. But, I don't care *if* he actually gets her ... well, I do but hopefully you kwim ... I really moreso want to avoid this trying to schedule stuff when he wants to see her but him being vague on things like when he'll bring her back/I pick her up. If it's set, it's set and he knows what the *expectations* are. Ugh. I hope that made sense.

belle204

Tifanico, I am the one who has to purchase them b/c it goes through my pass travel through my old airline job. I don't think he'll try to keep her -- he's not that crazy.