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I'm not doing this again

Yesterday we buried our daughter. It was at the same cemetery with the same priest who said all the same things as he did when we buried our son in December. When we got to the grave site I realized that our daughter is buried in the row right above her brother. The markers line up perfectly. Just seeing both graves there was too much for me. Going to two memorial services and burying two children in seven months time is more than anyone should have to endure and so I am saying right here, right now that I am not doing that again. I will not bury any more children. I know this isn't something that I can control but it makes me feel better to say it as though I can.

Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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  • I can't imagine and I really don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry.  No one should have to go through it. =(  HUGS
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  • I'm so sorry.  That must have been so tough.  I like your outlook. 


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  • IouliaIoulia
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    Terribly sorry for your losses.  No mother should have to endure that type of pain.
  • I am sorry for your losses. I cant image what your going through right now and I wish I could give you a big hug and sit there with you and let you vent all you want! You and your family will be in my T&P.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm right there with you, I've buried 2 children myself, and it's something no one should ever have to do once, let alone twice.  
  • Lkat17Lkat17
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    I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine what kind of pain you must be in. But my heart goes out to you! (((hugs)))

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  • I am so sorry for your losses. This is so unfair. ((hugs))
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  • No one should have to bury two children. I am so sorry.
    DS Born 10/05/99 DSS Born 7/11/95 BFP 05/11/10 - Missed M/C, D&C 06/23/10 BFP 8/3/2010 - Ectopic, Methotrexate 8/17/10 BFP 1/27/11- Please God let this heart beat strong. Beta1 17dpo-314 Beta2 20dpo-883 Beta3 22dpo-1861 Beta4 25dpo-5918 DS2 Born 10/07/99 "I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he shall be given over to the LORD." 1Sam1v24to28.
  • Oh wow. I am so sorry, I really can't imagine burying another child, whether it's within 7 months or years apart. I think there's definitely something to be said for having a positive attitude about the future, too!
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  • I am so sorry for your losses. I had tears in my eyes when I read your post. I'm so sorry you've had to go through so much pain.
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  • What a rough thing to do. I am so sorry you had to watch a second child be buried.

    Married August 9, 2008
    TTC Since September 2009

    1st   BFP | EDD 10/23/10 | Natural M/C 03/27/10 | 10w 0d
    2nd BFP 06/26/10 | EDD 02/25/11 | Natural  M/C 07/17/10 | 8w 1d
    3rd  BFP 12/17/10 | EDD 08/24/11 | Natural M/C 12/31/10 | 7w 4d
    4th  BFP 06/22/11 | EDD 02/25/12 | M/C D&C on 07/27/11 | 9w4d
    5th  BFP 09/17/11 | DD Paige Lily born 05/16/12
    6th  BFP 08/11/12 | EDD 04/11/13 | CP
    7th  BFP 09/29/13 | EDD 06/04/14 | Natural M/C 10/27/13 | 8w1d
    8th  BFP 12/16/13 | EDD 09/01/14

    DX: Pericentric Inversion of Chromosome 8 & compound heterozygous for MTHFR mutations
    RX: Lovenox/Heparin & Folgard


  • My heart is aching for you right now.  I'm am so so sorry. 
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