Do you follow all your own advice?

LIbride1006

I read alot more then I post. So I figured that I would just ask the above question and see what responses I get. I know just from personal experience that it is a lot easier to give advice then actually follow through with it. So ladies fess up do you give advice and not follow it yourself?

laughteriskey

I am an expert advice giver....I SUCK at follow through (in basically all aspects of my life).

 

AnnapolisLari

Why would I recommend something that I hadn't done/tried myself?

Of course I do.

belle204

Most of the time.

elm1032004

I usually do.....

NELCORP

Yes, I only give advice based on what I would do if I was in that situation or what I did.

The only time I don't follow my advise is if I went through the same scenario and did something different but learned better, in which case my advise would be what I learned.

LIbride1006

AnnapolisLari:

Why would I recommend something that I hadn't done/tried myself?

Of course I do.

I feel the same way, but sometimes you haven't been in a paticular situation and you give advice based on what you personally would do. Who is to say in the future in your own life you might react differently then the advice you once gave.

AnnapolisLari

I'm not sure which post sparked the question, but if it's the marriage issues one below, I did exactly what I recommended-- left my ex.

LIbride1006

Yes that post was one of the one's that got me thinking. Sometimes it is easy to tell someone what they should obviously see themselves. I did not see her original post though so I can not judge anyones reaction to that post.

mlm1128

I am basically the go to person for advice/a shoulder to cry on.  I can't say that I have always been in the situations that I advise on, because I haven't.  I tell people what I think I would do, or what I think they should do based on what I see and the side of the story I have info on. My friends/family all tell me that the reason they come to me is I listen, I give advise based on facts and I never pass judgement on what they ultimately decide to do. My SIL likes to say that I always see the good in other people and the positive sides of issues.

I really an like that in person, even though i am a smart ass.

JOEBunny

Pretty much.  There are a lot of situations on here I can't imagine getting into in the 1st place though. 

Mrs Manners

IRL I find that people usually aren't telling me something to get my advice, they're telling me because they want me to listen and because talking it out helps them emotionally and sometimes helps them reach a decision. IRL I've gotten much better about offering a sympathetic ear and NOT offering advice unless specifically asked. When asked, I tell them my opinion or if I've been there, done that, I tell them what we did and what I would have changed about it in hindsight.

On here, people are specifically seeking advice so I tend to offer it a lot more. I almost always respond only to posts of the "been there, done that" type and rarely respond with my opinion on something else (ie. marital issues, etc) because #1 those are usually very complicated stories and we're only hearing a tiny fraction of it #2 I usually don't want to put the mental effort into trying to place myself in their position and run down all the possible scenarios to find out how I "think" I would actually react or what I'd do.