Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

~~February 2011 Check In~~

Hey Love Bug Mama's. It's time for the check in (not usually my duty, but I saw people looking for it, not stepping on toes).

1- What was your due date?

2- How are you feeling today? this week?

3- AF come yet?

4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer?

5- How is DH doing?

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Re: ~~February 2011 Check In~~

  • elisbuelisbu member

    1- February 23rd, 2011

    2- I am looking forward to TTC again, yet today I cried for the first time in over two weeks. I talked to a friend who knew, but who I had not talked to and it hurt to open those wounds up again.

    I ordered OPK's from the amazon and I can't wait to pee on a stick again!!

    3- No AF, but I think I O'd last week!!

    4- Doc said we had to wait 2-3 cycles, but I hoping she changes her mind at my follow up tomorow. I will listen to what ever she says.

    5- DH broke down last week, and I mean broke down (he had been drinking). It was the first time he was REALLY upset. He had cried in church the week before, but only a tiny bit. Whenever I suggest putting off TTC again (in my weak moments) he gets upset and says he doesn't want to. I think hearing him say that makes me more ready to TTC, knowing he supports me.

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  • 1)  2/25/2011

    2)  Physically - improving after by d&c last Friday, but I really want to start exercising to get the few pounds I put on off; Mentally - still randomly angry at life, myself and God. I'm working on that last part.

    3)  No.  It'll be a while so you all will have to keep her entertained for me till she decides to come on over.

    4)  No word on TTC yet.  My f/u appt is next week so I'm sure I'll find out then.  Has not been top of mind so I have not thought to even ask the question.

    5)  DH is very supportive but I don't think he will ever "get it".  He looked like a deer in the headlights after the d&c last week so maybe a bit more of what has happened to us and the LO has sunk in than I am giving him credit for.

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  • 1) 2/26/11

    2) Physically I'm a lot better.  I finally stopped bleeding yesterday.  Mentally I'm a little better.  I don't feel like I want to cry every minute of every day, but the littlest thing can get me there.  My nerves are very raw.  I also don't feel much like socializing with anyone other than DH.  I just don't feel like they can relate to what I'm going through.  I guess I am faking it till I make it. 

    3) Not yet.  M/C was just last week.

    4) My doctor said I just needed to wait 1 cycle.  We plan to try as soon as we can.  I'm 34 and not getting any younger.  :)

    5) My DH has been so supportive and asks me every day how I am doing.  But, he holds his feelings inside.  I honestly don't know how he feels about everything.  

  • 1) 02/06/11

    2) To be honest, I'm not doing so good. It takes all I have to get through the work week like nothing's wrong. By the time I get home, I spend most of the evening on the couch either in a daze or sobbing. DH doesn't know what to do with me and I feel so bad, but I can't help it.

    3) nope - still bleeding from my D&C actually

    4) I'll find out on Aug. 9th

    5) He's doing okay other than being at a total loss as how to interact with me.

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  • 1- 2/15/2011

    2- This week was really great until today.  Today I'm feeling just kinda sad.  I cried this morning and am supposed to go back to work tomorrow.  I might postpone and just head back Monday.  Obviously I don't know how to handle the real world yet.

    3- No, just had D&C last Tuesday.  I did start temping again today though.  Hopefully I won't have a 60+ day cycle.

    4- We can TTC after our 2nd cycle.  We will start trying right away and are excited about it.

    5- DH is doing well.  I think he is just excited about trying again, so it makes me even more excited.  This just solidified the fact the he does really want a LO.

  • NYDayNYDay member

    1- Mid February

    2- Getting back to normal. I am surprised that I am able to handle so well when I am with my pregnant friends or my friends with babies.

    3- Not yet, but I wish it would! I feel like I have the worst PMS ever!

    4-Midwife told me to wait until after my period comes. We may wait longer as sex has been very emotional for me and we're taking things slowly.

    5- Better than I am. He's got his moments, but he's been my rock and I love him for it. He reminds me that we already have one happy and healthy child and if that's all we can do, then he is happy with it.

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  • 1. 02/13/2011

    2. I physically feel a lot better but emotionally I'm a wreck. I really have to agree with sandyd I am just so angry this week. Everything is irritating me and I can't focus. And all the pregnant women that I keep seeing (including my sister) is making the feelings worse.

    3. Nope. I just had a D&C on 7/18 so I hopefully only have a couple of weeks until AF arrives.

    4. When I had the D&C my doc said wait one cycle. I will see what is said when I have my f/u on Monday. When the dr says it's ok we will TTC

    5. DH was crushed at first and I really had to support him he was really torn apart. Now it's me and I have break downs regularly whether is crying or yelling. But he is always supportive even if the grief and the drop in hormones are making me crazy!

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    Hey Love Bug Mama's. It's time for the check in (not usually my duty, but I saw people looking for it, not stepping on toes).

    1- What was your due date? February 8, 2011

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? It's only been a few days, so not great.

    3- AF come yet? Not yet.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? She said to wait two cycles but I can't imagine doing it that soon.

    5- How is DH doing? He's been very strong, which I really need. He's hurting, but mostly concerned about me and my well being.

  • imageelisbu:

    Hey Love Bug Mama's. It's time for the check in (not usually my duty, but I saw people looking for it, not stepping on toes).

    1- What was your due date? We didn't have an exact one, the u/s was supposed to date it, but instead diagnosed it exctopic

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? Generally ok but longing for things to be different

    3- AF come yet? Nope still waiting

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? two cycles, so depending on when AF comes we will be TTC late Sept.  We are so ready

    5- How is DH doing? He is doing OK, he said the other day "I NEVER want to go through that again", but he won't talk about it, wants to look forward and move on

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  • 1- What was your due date?  2-5-2011

    2- How are you feeling today? this week?  I just found out Monday that I had lost the baby, and didn't start the Misoprostol last night....so I feel awful in every way.

    3- AF come yet?  No...but I'm bleeding anyway, so I guess she sent her cousin to me.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer?  The doc hasn't brought it up yet.  This baby was a surprise, so DH and I have talked about going back to our original goals (me finishing school and buying a house) before TTC again.

    5- How is DH doing?  He's been at work since midnight...I think he is doing ok because he is working and can get his mind off of it.

  • 1- What was your due date? February 6, 2011

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? I am feeling pretty good this week. Tomorrow will be 3 weeks since the miscarriage (wow the time has flown by) and surprisingly I feel okay. This past week has been different because I haven't been crying as much and I feel stronger both emotionally and physically. I actually made it to the gym once this week (Monday) and lasted almost an hour until the pain in my stomach got to be too much. I am trying to get into my normal routine again but work just seems to boggle my mind still. It is getting better but it will take time.

    3- AF come yet? No AF yet, I actually started birth control the week after my miscarriage as prescribed by the doctor so I am expecting AF in early August (while we are on vacationAngry) but I am not sure if it will come then or not. I guess we will wait and see.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? The doctor told us we could TTC after my first menstrual cycle. Like I posted in question 3 I am actually on birth control now (I haven't been in 3+ years) and we plan to wait a few years to try. We weren't necessarily trying when I got pregnant in May and we decided to hold off for a while.

    5- How is DH doing? DH is doing okay. He has been crying himself to sleep lately and he actually rolled over and told me last night that he hadn't cried yet that day. I was very proud of him. It's been difficult on him and he won't talk about it too much so I am letting his cope in his own way. He will come around soon (hopefully).

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  • 1. February 3, 2011

    2. I'm doing okay - although today has been harder than most have been recently.

    3. Not yet, but I tend to have long cycles anyway, and it will be only a month tomorrow (date wise) since the m/c. Although, according to FertilityFriend.com I ovulated a few days ago so AF should be on her way soon. Just in time to join us on our summer vacation. Yippee...

    4. The doctor told us to wait out this cycle and then we could start TTC, but they've now discovered I've gone hyperthyroid after being hypothyroid and my GP wants us to wait until we've consulted with an Endo and I've had any necessary treatments... I have follow ups with my docs at the end of August and hopefully will have seen the Endo by then too, and know more then...

    5. DH is doing okay - he finally grieved this weekend. I'm sad I was out of town and wasn't here for him like he had been for me these last few weeks. But I think it's good he let out some of the feelings he's been pushing down these last few weeks...

    Hugs to all of you wonderful ladies.

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  • 1- February 13, 2011

    2- Today, generally okay.  This week?  Up and down.  My bleeding finally stopped over the weekend, so physically I'm quite a bit better.  Emotionally?  Not so much yet.

    3- No AF yet.

    4- Doc said we could TTC after "1-2 normal cycles".  I think we may try after 1 cycle.  Not sure, though.  My age and the age difference between DD and to-be-conceived child worries me and makes me think we'll try as soon as we can--even though the idea of sex still freaks me out after this experience.   

    5- He says he's okay and more worried about me, but I'm not so sure he's as okay as he insists.

  • chusumchusum member

    I honestly LOVE this February check-in! you ladies are the bestest!

    1- Feb 25th2- Overly depressed this week, more than normal & I can't seem to shake it.3- Maybe one day when the blood from the m/c has stopped.4- He gave me the OK two days after my natural m/c. I'm gonna wait until two AFs come & go.5- He gave me the "It's so common" line today, so honestly I could care less how he is feeling. He might be in danger of me bopping him on the head with my 10lbs purse...

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    2nd BFP 06/26/10 | EDD 02/25/11 | Natural  M/C 07/17/10 | 8w 1d
    3rd  BFP 12/17/10 | EDD 08/24/11 | Natural M/C 12/31/10 | 7w 4d
    4th  BFP 06/22/11 | EDD 02/25/12 | M/C D&C on 07/27/11 | 9w4d
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    8th  BFP 12/16/13 | EDD 09/01/14

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  • 1- What was your due date? February 9th

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? Physically I feel fine. Emotionally I feel ok until I see a baby or a pregnant women, then I start to cry.

    3- AF come yet? No, although I've known I was going to miscarry since June 30th, it didn't happen until 2 weeks ago so I still have some time before AF gets here.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? I was told to wait for 1-2 cycles for dating reason. I'm not sure we're going to wait that long. As soon as my levels are back to zero I think we're going to start trying. (had another test today and I'm crossing my fingers that they are dropping quickly)

    5- How is DH doing? I don't know what I would have done without him this past month. I know it's hard on him to but he's somehow been able to keep positive throughout it all and that's helped me a lot.

  • Due Date: Feb 9th

    Feeling today/week: Ok, each day seems to be better as I get back into the swing of things at work. And I've been staying busy. Went to Vegas for the weekend and then saw the Red Sox in Anaheim last night.

    AF: Not yet.... send her my way!

    TTC: After I get AF. Going to try again as soon as possible

    DH: I don't think it ever seemed "real" to him the same way it did for me, so he's fine. He hasn't really shared any emotions with me about it. His concern was more for me.

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  • 1- What was your due date? February 12th

    2- How are you feeling today? this week?  Feeling better, bleeding is still off and on.  This week I'm feeling sadder.  I found out over the weekend that my body is making milk.  That made everything worse.  It's not enough to be painful, just there to remind me that my body wants to nurture my baby that is currently in a lab somewhere for testing.  I guess depressed covers it. 

    3- AF come yet? No, I met with the doctor today for a D&C follow up and he said if I don't get it by 8-10 I should start Provera.  Yippee. 

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? We haven't had the talk yet.  It's a little different I think with an IF specialist.  He wants to do testing after AF to make sure I'm normal, discuss the results of the karotype, and then come up with a plan.  This was our surprise baby, we're not sure if we want to TTC again soon, or wait until next Summer like we had been planning. 

    5- How is DH doing? I don't know.  He doesn't talk about it at all.  I know it's partially just a defense mechanism, but it's hard to be the only one who seems upset.  He is kinda going with the "yes I was excited, but we weren't ready anyway and the timing was bad" approach. 

     Thank you for doing this check-in.  I'm so sad to see so many Love Bugs here :-(

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  • elisbuelisbu member

    I didn't know there were so many of us. Do you think it's because we aren't ready to move TTCAL? In three months will be board be full of 'May Flowers'? I hate this board. I hate that is needed. I hate that we have to part of it.

    But I am so glad ya'll are here for me. You dont know how much your support has helped me.

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  • Hey Love Bug Mama's. It's time for the check in (not usually my duty, but I saw people looking for it, not stepping on toes).

    1- What was your due date? FEB 8, 2011

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? Today was better than yesterday and the day before but this week is still hard. I was suppose to be 12 weeks and this was the week we were finally going to tell everyone and start shopping for things, ect.

    3- AF come yet? Yes it's still coming.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? I never had to see my doctor for a follow-up after my DNC but he said 2 cycles. We haven't talked about it in detail but he did slip that he wouldn't mind trying at the beginning of next year.

    5- How is DH doing? He has his bad days and good days. He considers himself the strong person in our relationship so I think he tries to hold it together for me. It was hard right after it happened (you can see posts of mine im sure) but now it's alot better.

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  • imageelisbu:

    Hey Love Bug Mama's. It's time for the check in (not usually my duty, but I saw people looking for it, not stepping on toes).

    1- What was your due date? Feb. 9th

    2- How are you feeling today? this week?  I actaully feel very normal this week.  My body is normal again, my moods are more steady, but I still had trouble looking at the baby aisle in Target with clear eyes last night.

    3- AF come yet?  She sure did!

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer?  Well let's see, I have the most incompetent doc ever and I haven't seen him since before my miscarriage was confirmed.  So no, I guess he hasn't, but I go in for blood work tomorrow and if my hcg is less than 0, then I guess I am good to go.  Go find myself a new doctor that is.

    5- How is DH doing?  He seems fine.  Much better than I've been.

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  • Sorry, I haven't been online much to post a checkin lately. Thanks for keeping it up!

    1- What was your due date? Feb 19

    2- How are you feeling today? this week? Having a much better week....I'm more sad that work is stressful than my m/c, so that's a nice change.

    3- AF come yet? Yes, a couple weeks ago.

    4- When did your doc give the okay to TTC again? Are you going to or wait a little longer? No, we were told to wait 3 cycles, so 2 more months to go.

    5- How is DH doing? Much better than me. I think after the first week he was back to "normal".

  • imageelisbu:

    I didn't know there were so many of us. Do you think it's because we aren't ready to move TTCAL? In three months will be board be full of 'May Flowers'? I hate this board. I hate that is needed. I hate that we have to part of it.

    But I am so glad ya'll are here for me. You dont know how much your support has helped me.

    Agree with everything you said.

    I'm looking forward to hopefully having a little "June Bug" next year. I never liked our Feb badge.

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