My Mom (vent)

Dragonfly1226

So at this point the only people who we have told about my pregnancy are my mother and father and dh's mother and step father. A few other poeple know because they guessed after seeing me get sick (my brother and two close friends). We haven't even told dh's father and step mother because SMIL is a total gossip and cannot keep a secret for her life.

So we are in NJ visiting my parents, and over the weekend my mother had a friend over who she has not seen in two years. They were hanging out in the pool talking to each other. DH was right there in the pool too! My mother told this woman that I was pregnant right in front of him! She thought she was being quiet about it, but he heard. Later when I asked her about it she said that her friend saw me laying down and asked if I was alright. Instead of saying I didn't feel well, my mother spilled the beans to this woman! I was so upset! We have told her numerous times not to say anything to anyone!

She feels really bad about it now - especially when we told her that dh's father doesn't even know. But it was obvious that she also told this woman about my history of m/c... It makes me wonder what else she's blabbing about.

Most of all it makes me sad because I want to be able to share these things with her.

LaneyLooLoo

I'm so sorry.  People have such a hard time keeping a secrect!  I know it can be hard to stifle her excitement, but she has betrayed your confidence.

cookie_queen

I'm so sorry. My mom is similar. We are telling people but she sent out a schoolwide email (we both teach). I haven't even done that! I keep telling myself it's just because she's so excited. 

It also helps that she lives 15 hours away! 

nwarner324

Dragonfly, I am so happy to see you on this board.  You replied to a few of my posts on the IF board.

 I don't think anyone can keep such good news a secret.  We told our parents also and my mom has already told her neighborhood and believe it or not MIL is actually doing good although she keeps asking us every week when they can say but we are not allowing them to talk until after the 1st trimester.  This is their 1st g-child so they are excited but we want to be safe.   I'm sure everyone will already know before we actually get to share our good news ourselves. 

Good luck!

Babsie7

How frustrating! I'm sorry she's having major difficulties keeping your secret. She sounds a bit like my MIL; she admitted to us that she told her sister after we told her to keep it to herself... I think she told others as well.

rachel06

OH sweetie I am so sorry you're having to deal with this.  I totally feel your pain with my Sister. When I told her about IVF I felt like we had a special bond but when she went & blabbed my trust was betrayed. I am glad you were able to express your feelings to your Mom. But it sucks that you feel like you can't trust her and you want to share these things with her. If you ever need to vent you know I am here. You are such a sweet person and people should be able to keep a secret when they say they will.

newsbaby

Ugh I am sorry. I can understand that she is excited to announce she is having a grandchild but she should still respect your wishes.

EMTTessie

I'm so sorry. My MIL and FIL both blabbed when we asked them not to also. And the worst part was that they told people we really didn't feel needed to know right away. I know they were excited but it was just so frustrating.

kevamb

I`m sorry that happened...it was very insensitive of your mom to share your special news without your permission. Not that it makes it okay but...Your mom is probably so excited and bubbling over to share the good news!