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Poll: Being together... N3TR

On the radio today they where discussing the meaning of being together and spending time together. One DJ (dude) said that being together doesn't matter what you do as long as you are together. Even grocery shopping or watching TV. The other DJ (chick) said that her man tells her he wants to do something with her she expects a movie or dinner. Said a woman needs that one on one interaction. She said going grocery shopping isn't spending time together.

My question is what do you think?

I always thought that whatever we did as long as we where together it meant we where spending time together. Even when we where dating we went shopping and ran MH errands. I never saw this as an issue, and we always have fun. Maybe because MH is gone so much I appreciate the little things, but I even enjoy sitting on the couch watching TV and each one of us on our laptops. Even that I find as spending time together.  

Re: Poll: Being together... N3TR

  • I agree with you and "the dude". Anytime with MH is wonderful! I love being with him. When were dating my favorite thing to do was spend the weekends on bikes (at the time I lived at the beach). We didn't need to spend a ton of money or plan out the days events, we always enjoy each other's company :)
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  • I feel the same as you.  I think DH and I have good quality time together when we are commuting to work, grocery shopping or just hanging out.  I don't think spending time together necessarily means going out on the town.
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  • Our being together time is anytime we are together.  Whether it is grocery shopping, folding laundry or watching tv.  I remember when we were first married, I was running an errand and he wanted to come. I was surprised and he said "where ever you go I go" in a cute loving voice.  Ever since then, I never think twice about it and love the time we spend together doing whatever whenever. 
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  • Our together time can be doing anything, food shopping, watching TV, whatever.

    That being said, I do have many weekends that we were so busy that come Sunday night I feel like I barely spent any time with DH, even though he was right next to me through the craziness.

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    Ha Mari, this is an ongoing topic in my house.
    I don't think is a male/female thing, but more love language kind of thing. For me physical touch and interaction is needed for my H being in the same room/house and some talking is spending time together.But then grocery shopping it is for me and not for me.
    So in our house it's more important the "how we do it " than the "what we're doing".

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  • I count anytime DH and I are together as spending time together, including grocery shopping, doing laundry etc.

    When I hear  "lets do something" I think doing something other than our daily routine things.  It could be dinner or a ride down the Cape. 

     

     

  • MH and I both count being together as when we are together. In fact, if we are home together and in the same room, then that's together to me :)

    Now, if I can get me a little one, I won't need him to hang out so much! Just kidding!

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    MH and I both count being together as when we are together. In fact, if we are home together and in the same room, then that's together to me :)

    Now, if I can get me a little one, I won't need him to hang out so much! Just kidding!

    I don't even need mine hanging around I just have him go make a deposit so that it can be frozen and hope I get a LO on my own! LMAO!!

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    imageBBColt78:

    MH and I both count being together as when we are together. In fact, if we are home together and in the same room, then that's together to me :)

    Now, if I can get me a little one, I won't need him to hang out so much! Just kidding!

    I don't even need mine hanging around I just have him go make a deposit so that it can be frozen and hope I get a LO on my own! LMAO!!

    I totally agree! LMAO!

  • I agree with the anytime you and DH are together...you are spending time with each other. I love to just sit in my spot on the computer and he sits in his chair on his work computer....we may not even talk but we are together. And we'll glance over at each other and smile or blow kisses!!

    So yes, dude DJ is right!

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    I count anytime DH and I are together as spending time together, including grocery shopping, doing laundry etc.

    When I hear  "lets do something" I think doing something other than our daily routine things.  It could be dinner or a ride down the Cape. 

     

     

     

    This. I think it is important to have a mix of the everyday little things and a nice bit of "special" romance thrown in randomly. Spice it up! And don't wait for DH to plan always. Surprise him yourself and you'll get exactly what you were looking for!

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