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vlewis515

How did you and DH meet and/or start dating and when did you know he was the one?

itsmyangel

We met through a mutual friend.  He wanted to date, I wasn't interested and kept turning him down.  We were hanging out every night though and after awhile i was like...well why don't i just say we are dating?  3 months after we met he moved in a month later we bought a dog...and then i just couldn't ever imagine him NOT being there

Sonadora

We were set up on a blind date for my sorority formal spring of 2001. I told my friends the next day I was going to marry that boy. (He was a boy, 18 at the time!) We didn't get to really start dating until the following spring though since it was the end of the semester and he was going to CA for the summer, then in the fall/winter he went on a study abroad program. My friends thought I was c-r-a-z-y to be waiting for him to come back from all of that after only two dates.

Staribeth

Just because I love our story, I will expand :-)

I was dating this guy on and off for 8 years. I was never really happy with who I was with him. And I always felt like I was the one following him around and never really felt like he cared about me. I decided I needed to date other people but had no idea how to go about that. I kept in touch with a voice student I worked with during my student teaching experience. He asked me how things were with the boyfriend and I said not so good. He asked if it would be weird if he set me up with his older brother. He was graduating HS and I wasn't working in the district so I figured I'd give it a try. Why not, right? Jim and I started talking on AIM (so embarrassing!) one night when he "accidentally" signed on using his brother's screen name. They both figured I would say hello and then the conversation could start from there. Pretty good, because I totally fell for it! We agreed to go on a date after about 3 weeks of chatting and talking on the phone. 

Jim showed up at my door and I panicked because he looked so much like his younger brother that it sort of creeped me out. I felt gross because his brother was my "student" just a few months ago! I was super nervous the entire car ride to dinner, but as we got through the meal I began to relax and realized I really liked this guy (I think the beer helped!). We wandered around Princeton (the town we now live in) and snuck into the football stadium and talked for hours. We didn't kiss on the first date, which both of us regret because we wanted to so much! That night I thought I could spend my life with this guy. He was so funny and easy to talk to. And he seemed really interested in me, which was something I never felt with the other guy I was dating. It took a few more weeks for me to officially break things off with the old boyfriend during which Jim pursued me like crazy! I had never experienced anything like this with a guy. Things progressed very quickly and we fell in love very fast. But we took our time with the relationship and really got to know each other and our friends and family.  

The whole story made for a great best man speech! 

MrsManning10

Aw, this is fun!

My DH and I met in HS when I was 14 and he was 15... We were debate partners... I had a crush on him throughout all of HS, but we didn't start dating until my senior year.  Broke up once (for two years) and got back together and knew it was right... So, we were married last September. 

erpetdoc

Ooohhh.....I like this thread! 

I dated on and off in veterinary school.  I never really felt like I had the time to give to a relationship, nor did I ever find a guy that really held my attention.  I figured that when I finished school, and found a job, I'd find the right man to date/marry.

Around Christmas 2005, in my 4th year of veterinary school, I accepted a position as an associate veterinarian at a small practice in PA.  I knew that I had an "off-block" coming up soon (February), so I planned on going out to PA to look for a place to live and "work" in my new practice (just shadowing and meeting staff/clients). 

February arrived, and I flew out to PA.  I was excited, nervous, and a little in awe of all that was around me.  After my first day there, though, I felt lonely and sad too.  I had no friends, no family, no anyone for support in PA.  Heck, I didn't even know where there was a good coffee shop (no Starbucks nearby). 

I hopped on MySpace, not looking to meet anyone, but just to make some friends, and find a good place to relax, get coffee, and be sociable.  I "met" Mark, and we chatted online for a few hours.  He seemed like a really great guy, and I was excited that I made a new friend.  I was not expecting him to be a boyfriend at all.  We decided to get together just to hang out the next evening. 

He showed up at the hotel where I was staying, and we went to Friendly's for ice cream (still one of our favorite places to go).  I don't think either of us were expecting a relationship, but we hit it off so well!  I had planned on seeing a performance by a band that my friend was a part of in Philadelphia on Saturday night before flying home.  I invited him to join me.  He had to work on Saturday, but we agreed to meet where he worked, and drive over in separate cars (I was driving a rental and flying out of Philly back to Iowa). 

We went out in the freezing cold February weather, and had a great time.  It started to snow while we were waiting for a table at Hard Rock.  It was a light snow then, but by the time we left the restaurant, there was already a couple inches on the ground.  We took a taxi to Grape Street (no longer exists) and found there was no line, no people milling about outside, and the doors were locked.  The show had been canceled due to the weather, and I didn't know it! 

By that point, the roads were getting slick, and there was a good 6 or 7 inches of snow on the ground.  I didn't want him driving back that night (2 hours back to his house).  So, I invited him just to hang out with me in the hotel room.  (I know that sounds horrible...but I certainly didn't want to be responsible for him getting into a car accident...he was the only friend in PA I had at the time.)  It was a great evening...and we hardly slept at all! 

By the time he left, I guess we both realized this wasn't going to be "just friends."  I flew back out the following weekend, just for a short trip to see him.  He told me he wouldn't be able to pick me up at the airport because of his work schedule.  So, I planned on waiting at the airport for a couple hours until he got there.  What actually happened is when I got off the plane and down to the end of the secure area, he was there, with roses, and waiting on me (he surprised me, knowing all along it wouldn't be a problem to not be at work that afternoon). 

We saw each other a few more times before I graduated.  When I graduated and moved to PA, we were able to see each other more frequently, obviously.  We got engaged in October, and married the following May -- 1 year to the day from the date that I graduated veterinary school.  In February, before we got married, we moved into our first house together in Lancaster County.  And it's been happy bliss every since.  I wouldn't change a thing about how our relationship progressed.  And now, here we are, expecting baby number one, and still as happy as we were the first time we met.  I am truly a very blessed woman. 

Mrs.Brink

We met in fall '00 when I started at the local community college for music performance and he started as technical director of the theater (sound/lights/set design&construction). We always hung out with the same theater crowd and since the college didn't have an orchestra program I joined the choir.

 In '01 I started to work for the theater's box office and since we worked in the same area I started getting his mail since he was terrible at getting it for himself (it would really build up). After hours we would all go out for dinner and drinks and MrBrink and I got to know eachother better.

Summer '02 I was "talking" with another guy, to be nice and felt bad for him and all his nerdiness, when now DH said "him? really? well I"ll just ask you to dinner later then". We went out once in the summer but I was freaked out by the whole relationship thing and just came up with a lame excuse that I wasn't interesting in dating at the time. So we just stayed good friends.

Fall "02 came around and he went on a few dates with a friends sister and she treated him like crap. We all went out one night and she left him there to pay her bill while she talked with another buy. This lit a fire under myass like no other. I talked with him after she left with 'other guy' about how he deserved someone who'd pay him the time of day/night and wouldn't do that to him. So I guess that was my answer to him :-) We were already inseparable but this solidified it.

Our first official date as a couple was September 14 2002,moved in together mid December '02, Engaged September 14 2006 and Married June 30th 2007. We "planned" on having kids right away but of course didn't plan on it taking another 2+yrs...and our due date is also the week I moved in to our 1st apartment :-)

I hate it when good people are hurt by those that are supposed to care for them....but I'm so glad that girl ditched my DH at that bar. I wouldn't trade the last 10yrs of friendship for anything.

jesmckenna

What a fun thread!

DH and I both started an internship together in Disney World in Jan 2002 and apparently we liked each other right away.  We started dating in Feb.  In March, my grandpa died and I took it really hard, especially being away from my family.  The day he died, DH took me out and did anything possible to keep me busy.  I knew if he could make me so happy on that day, that he was definitely someone special, and that's how I knew he was "the one."

vlewis515

Hey I give all credit to Staribeth for telling her abridged version in her earlier post! That's where I got the idea! I love stories!! Guess I'll tell mine now!

I started working as a dispatcher in December 2003 when I was 20 yrs old. Met my DH that month just before he went on a 3 week vacation. I should mention that DH (and I'm this way too for that matter) is not exactly a trainee-friendly guy, it's kinda that whole "you need to prove yourself" type mentality. So I spoke to him like once. He came back from vacation and I was told that he would be our classroom trainer (all dispatchers have to do through a basic classroom type of training to learn everything on paper before getting on the floor, I had already been on the floor for a couple of months while they waited to get a few more people hired before setting up the classroom training). I didn't even remember who he was! The sergeant in dispatch had to remind me! Just so happens he was also the supervisor that night (he was like an assistant supervisor at the time so he had to fill in when the real super was gone) and my trainer was sick that day so they stuck me one phones all night since I could do that on my own and told me to just ask him if I needed anything. Inevitably (being only 2 months in and barely trained on phones) I had a few questions and DH looked at me like I was stupid each time I had to ask. Needless to say my impression of him on a personal level was not that great. Plus that night a former dispatcher that was a friend of his came by with her little boy who was dressed very similar to DH, they apparently had an inside joke that the kid was his and I overheard them talking and assumed that she was his wife.

Fast forward a couple more weeks to classroom training. Found out that he was 31 (to my 20), not married (divorced for several years no kids), and through the course of the next 1 1/2 to 2 weeks that we had a lot in common as far as taste in music, movies, food, humor. Around that time, the 2 other new dispatchers were telling me that it was obvious to them that Chris had a thing for me. I honestly just thought he was fun to flirt with and liked him a little too. So I went into full on flirty mode and the night after our classroom training ended, I asked him to go see the new Dawn of the Dead movie with me...just 2 friends going to see a movie.

That "friendly" date turned into our 1st date when we kissed at the end of the night. I remember staying up almost all night with a friend worrying about our age difference and wondering what my parents were gonna think. Little did I know DH was having the same concerns. In fact he called his parents a few weeks later to tell them he was dating me seriously. He got a hold of his mom and told her he was seeing someone, she was very excited and told him it was wonderful. Then he stopped her and said "There's a thing. She's really young." His mom then asked if I was at least legal. To which he replied yes. She then asked if I could drink. He said "She'll be able to in a few weeks when she turns 21." She just laughed and turned told his dad who Chris heard in the background yelling "Way to go son!" My family was a little more worried about it but they came around.

From there on out we were inseperable. Even after our 2nd week of dating when DH announced to me that he didn't want to ever get married again and moreover that he didn't want to have any kids. It was like someone scratched the record, I stopped and said "Then I don't want you." That floored him. And he immediately started backtracking, I told him there was absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to get married and not wanting to have kids but I was fully planning on doing both and if he was set against it then there was no point to us being together. That seriously made him think and he suddenly made the decision that if that's what it took to keep me then he was all for it. We addressed this again after 2 months dating and he said he was still on board and then mentioned that he wouldn't propose until we'd been together 6 months. I wasn't really expecting it until we'd been together for a year or so. But the week before our 7 month anniversary he put a ring on my finger and 7 months after that we were married!

Sorry that was ridiculously long and specific, just had to get in some of my favorite parts!

vlewis515

I guess I should also mention I knew he was the one after probably our 2nd date (don't know why or what it was about him) but I just knew. Also should mention that he was my first boyfriend...guys in high school (and in general) found me to be intimidating. I was always the type of girl that could hang with the guys, but not date them.

Oh and also, I find this part funny (I apologize in advance to the ladies that are married to officers!) my dad is a police sergeant in the city I grew up in so I know all the sordid tales of heartache in that department. When I called and told him I was dating a "co-worker" he assumed I meant an officer and not another dispatcher. So you could tell he was uneasy about it but he wasn't mentioning it much, he asked what shift he was on, and how long he'd been there. Then he asked if he'd dated a lot of other dispatchers and I told him not that I knew of. Dad then rather sternly said that I needed to be sure of what I was doing because I was still new and didn't need to get the reputation for being a "Fender Chaser" (which is a term for women that go after police officers specifically, also called "Fender Lizards" and "Badge Bunnies" not aimed at the girls married to officers its usually used for dispatchers because there are women that become dispatchers just to meet and marry an officer or fireman). Anyway he said that I was like "What?! No! Dad he's a dispatcher!!" Dad let out this huge sigh of relief and said "Oh thank God!" To which I was yelling "You really think I'd go for an officer?! Gross!" and we got a laugh out of it!

Disclaimer: I personally would never date an officer strictly because of the officers that my dad worked with and that I grew up with, his department was pretty big and really bad about dating each other...seriously it was like a soap opera at his dept. He used to date her, but screwed around with her, then married her and cheated on her with her....that kind of thing. So it just turned me off to any officer. But if yall are married to a good guy that's an officer, you are probably well aware of the bad guys that are officers too!

But that was a funny story that I had to share!