Using Neighbor's Name?

RosyBee

I like the name Julia (though not yet dead set on it yet). The thing is my downstairs neighbor is named Julia (I live in a 2-apartment house). She is very nice and we have a good relationship ? she's even volunteered to babysit the kid already! She is a 50-something single woman with no children. She is also somewhat weird (has talked about wanting to get a goat for our *urban* yard and collects snails to make her own escargo). 

Will it be odd if I name my daughter Julia? I'm afraid I be asking for an over-attachment from this woman? I wouldn't be naming my daughter *after* her, I just like the name...

What do you think? 

karaknr

Chances are you wont be living there forever. Id talk to the neighbor at some point and tell her you absolutely love her name and "did she know that its been the number one name on your baby name list for years?"

Or something like that. That way you are telling her your naming your kid that name but inadvertently telling her that you liked it long before her so she doesnt think your naming the kid after her. 

laurenpaula

Who cares?  Are you going to be living in that apartment forever?   

That is a nice name

alwysbrdmaid

If you like the name I would use it anyway. You won't live there forever.

HappyMrsK

I would still use the name. It's not like it is an uncommon name, so I would suggest what pp suggested to at some point make a comment to the neighbor that you like her name and that it's been a name you have been considering for a daughter for a long time.

I hope her weirdness doesn't ruin the name for you.

Aaron'sWife

I would definitely bring up how much you love the name in casual conversation. I would also not eat any escargot she may bring over.

ademc05

1st: Escargot?! I really want to vomit. I can't imagine picking those things from the yard for a meal. Blah!

Next, I'm in the same situation. For a girl, I am most likely using my across-the-street neighbor's name. Therefore, thanks for the question. But I'm afraid me and neighbor will both be here a long time.

Ms Molly

karaknr:

Chances are you wont be living there forever. Id talk to the neighbor at some point and tell her you absolutely love her name and "did she know that its been the number one name on your baby name list for years?"

Or something like that. That way you are telling her your naming your kid that name but inadvertently telling her that you liked it long before her so she doesnt think your naming the kid after her. 

I agree with all of this.  I'm sure she will be flattered but let her know it's a name you've liked long before you met her. 

ohbabyboy

I'd just lie and say it's a family name if she asks.  And if she did say something implying that you named your daughter after her, I'd say something like, "don't you think it would be kind of weird to name my baby after my neighbor?"

raeyn

ohbabyboy:

I'd just lie and say it's a family name if she asks.  And if she did say something implying that you named your daughter after her, I'd say something like, "don't you think it would be kind of weird to name my baby after my neighbor?"

I agree, I'd lie and say I have an aunt or grandmother or something named Julia. But I'd try to fit it into conversation before the baby is born. Next time you see her, just say, "Julia is such a beautiful name. My grandmother's name was Julia and DH and I are actually thinking about naming our daughter after her." 

CactusGirl

If you end up not using it you may regret it later when you move away and never see the old lady again. Just saying.

RosyBee

Thanks for the responses? I definitely will bring it up in casual conversation if we settle on the name (hopefully soon). I don't think I could lie, however, I am really a pure liar and when my mom comes to visit from the east coast/help with the baby she and Julia will undoubted get into a conversation about it...

I still love the name?and you're right, its common enough to not be too odd to name my daughter that.

Toots_pop

raeyn:

ohbabyboy:

I'd just lie and say it's a family name if she asks.  And if she did say something implying that you named your daughter after her, I'd say something like, "don't you think it would be kind of weird to name my baby after my neighbor?"

I agree, I'd lie and say I have an aunt or grandmother or something named Julia. But I'd try to fit it into conversation before the baby is born. Next time you see her, just say, "Julia is such a beautiful name. My grandmother's name was Julia and DH and I are actually thinking about naming our daughter after her." 

Totally agree...she will never know the difference and you won't have to feel weird about it.  I LOVE the name btw!

blessedsunshine

karaknr:

Chances are you wont be living there forever. Id talk to the neighbor at some point and tell her you absolutely love her name and "did she know that its been the number one name on your baby name list for years?"

Or something like that. That way you are telling her your naming your kid that name but inadvertently telling her that you liked it long before her so she doesnt think your naming the kid after her. 

 

THIS exactly what i would do! i LOVEEE Julia! pretty name!