I asked my DH if I could quit my job

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and he said 'sure' -- and let me tell you, it is tempting. I cannot handle the stress of contract work anymore -- responding to bids and arguing budgets, waiting to hear if you 'win' work, doing work that has an end date looming, and working with belligerent IT staff  -- it's a freaking drag. Teamwork is dumb -- the Wonder Pets were WRONG.

I want to do something else. I wish I knew what I would like to do for a living. If anyone says I can earn money on my back...hey, I'm up for ideas.

 

 

A-baybride

I actually found working more bearable when I knew I could quit.  Obviously it was all in my head, but working by choice instead of feeling like I had to be there made it easier to not stress over everything.  So maybe it will help to not worry about winning bids and deadlines?  What type of work do you do?

JCS2007

That is exactly where I was for the last few years, and finally this spring, when my work location changed from home to an office 30 miles away and I was really starting to hate my job, we decided it was not worth it anymore.  The timing also worked out great b/c we hit a point with daycare where we wanted to stop using the provider we had been with.  My last day was the Friday before Memorial Day, and while it is frustrating at times (my boys are 3 1/2 and 11 months), life is SO MUCH better now.  Things are a little tighter, but we cut out some extras like the cleaning lady and it seems to be working out. I enjoying my kids more and have time to do the things I could never accomplish before.  I will work again at some point, but just don't know what I want to do.  I feel so much more in control of my life, which I had little sense of before.

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I do project management. I can't say I'm very good at it - I'm very good at the client part and the quality assurance part. I used to be a teacher. I am good at that, but it's a lot work for not a lot of pay (though I think if I went back to teaching, I could pace myself).

I am 39. Part of me wants to quit and have a second baby. I have been working non-stop since I was 15 years old. I want to be a forest ranger. lol. seriously though, I'd love to do something outdoorsy.

It is hard to imagine quitting a job. I think it would feel 'freeing' but very scary.

luckyluvr

I've been off since Memorial Day weekend, and I'm so happy being a temp. SAHM and my kids are happy. I have to go back to teaching in 2 weeks, and I'm so sad about it. There's no way I will ever hear my DH say I can quit, though I've begged for 3 years. All he would have to do is say Yes once, and I'd be all over it, even if it meant sacrificing some of the extras in life. I say go for it!

MsKellDel

We have been toying with the same idea since Thing 2 just started daycare. He was with family before but due to unfortunate circumstances, they can no longer do it.

My job is stressful with no room for growth and I have been searching for something new over a year now. DH convinced me to quit when we realized that daycare is now going to cost almost 50% of what I take home which isn't much to begin with. I am trying to find a part time position by fall then I will be quitting this job to stay home.

I rather funds be tight and we be happy

joy143dh

vccake:

Part of me wants to quit and have a second baby. I have been working non-stop since I was 15 years old. I want to be a forest ranger. lol. seriously though, I'd love to do something outdoorsy.

It is hard to imagine quitting a job. I think it would feel 'freeing' but very scary.

This was totally me.   Plus, I commuted for 1.2 hrs each way, so me was not liking life.    I asked DH the same thing and he encouraged me to quit.   So I did this past May.  VERY scary at first.  Hell, I was a basketcase when I told my boss.  Plus the whole independant me felt, well, a bit worthless.  The company ended up signing me on as a consultant - working from home 12-15 hrs/wk.   A few contacts I had in the industry called me a week later.  I signed one of them as a client just a few weeks ago, doing 20 hrs from home for them.   Now, I work M/W/F from home.   We all went to the beach today.  I am SO HAPPY I made the decision to leave and become a consultant.  It's still scary, because I have to sell myself (vertically, that is) to get clients, but if I decide I need time off, I can take it whenever I want.

You may not know what you want to do right now. It's hard to think of what you want to do while you are doing something else (for me anyway). 

Here's what I would tell a friend... Take a week vacation and use the time to visit local businesses, drive around and see people working.. ya know, research.   Then go back to work, and give yourself a few weeks to decide.

good luck!!

jettagurl

It was a no-brainer for me to stay home once the twins were here...having 4 in daycare would nearly eat my salary, let alone adding in all the gas/car maintenance/lunch out/clothes/ etc.  I love the freedom.  And the little things....playing games with the kids, enjoying the backyard, last minute playdates or lunches at Chick-fil-A, making DH lunch, running errands for him/getting material.  I know this is the right place for me right now. 

 

I'll go back to work in a few years, but I probably won't go back to what my degree is in (my most recent job was just semi-related). I have a standing job offer with my former employer whenever I decide I'm ready to go back, so there's no pressure there. I often sit around an mope about a silly career choice I made.....I wish someone would have had a "come to Jesus" talk with me.  Oh well, what's done is done.  Now, I see how much DH loves his work, and I'd like to get into business so we can own our own and I can manage the business side while he manages the work/employee side.  It will happen, hopefully I'll get back to get a degree in business/accounting, and be able to be wherever the kids need me.