B's BFF said I am mean :(

xbrooklyngrl

Yesterday I brought B's BFF over after work so they can play. They were having fun with all the kids on my block but B was not being nice. She wasn't sharing with her other friends on my block, she was yelling at them to get out of her car, etc. I kept yelling at her to quit the behavior. I'd normally just take her butt inside but I didn't want to punish her friend since he was having fun.

Anyway, later B tells me "Stephen said you were being mean to me"

and I said, he did, when?

She said " when we were in my tent, he said your mom was not nice to you, she said mamamamamamama"

I feel bad. I know I have a tendency to go overboard but I really don't stand for that bratty behavior.

peekaboo716

I would be most concerned with what that child was saying to his parents. You're not mean though. You were trying to get B to share. Now if her BFF thought that you shouldn't make B share, and that's why you were mean - eh whatev.

mlm1128

I don't think that telling her NOT to be mean to others is you being mean.  You don't want her to grow up being the Veruca Salt of her school.  I am the same way.  And if she tells me they did something wrong first I tell her that is all the more reason to be nice to them since they don't know any better.

xbrooklyngrl

His mom knows me well so I'm not really worried about that, lol.

 

jettagurl

Not saying B is a 'liar', but maybe she's just saying that HE said it, when she's making it up. When Ben wants something he know's he can't have, he'll say, "Mom, Nat wants us to get xxxx."  And I know she isn't pulling these things out of the blue. 

So, maybe she just wants to say that to you, but doesn't want to get herself in trouble.

 

joseysbride

Of course you're mean.  Wouldn't they love it if we just let them do whatever the heck they wanted?