Daycare vent

decaturbride

The transition to daycare is SO hard! Owen is not taking it well and neither am I, for that matter. He cried almost the whole daay yesterday. When I picked him up, his little face was all red and puffy from crying so hard. His teacher said he would play for a minute and then cry again. I'm not working this week, so he is just going for part of the day to help him get used to it. Ugh! I hate that they have to pull him off of me and then he is screaming and I can hear it until I am out the front door. I was crying before I even left today. I know it will take time, but geez this sucks!

Thanks for letting me vent a little, I just feel so guilty and helpless to make it better for him.

MrsKLB

I'm sorry.  

I don't have any good advice because Brady has been going to daycare since before he was even old enough to realize I was gone.  Does his teacher have any suggestions for you?  I would think it's just something that will take a little time for him to get used to.  It's good that you are transitioning him this week with just going part of the day.  I do think every day will get easier.  Try to let go of some of the guilt.  He's going to a safe place and being well taken care of.  Good luck!

slwprincess

I think it is definitely harder when they are older.  Gavin started at 8 weeks so he didn't even know I was gone.  The ones who have come to our daycare or even church nursery when they are older definitely have a hard time for the first few weeks.  But it WILL get better.  You just have to keep telling yourself that.  Does he have a lovie or anything that he can take with him?   Sometimes Gavin still has a mommy attachment phase but if I just let him get his lovie out of the cubby he will usually sit down and play with the other kids as long as he has that nearby.  May be worth a try.

dleigh2020

I am so sorry. Graham starts daycare in 2 weeks and I am afraid he is going to have a hard time adjusting too. I plan on wearing a blanket around for the next few days so it will smell like me and then sending it to daycare with him. I am hoping that will help. I hope he adjusts soon.

AugustaBride04

It's so hard. My DD started preschool this summer 1 day a week. Previous, she had only been with me or DH or a nanny.  She did the same thing when she started and it made it so hard for me. I hated having to hand to her off to her teacher while she was screaming and crying for mommy   But I have to say that it got better. The teachers said give it 2 weeks for them to get adjusted.  Now she understands that mommy comes back. She will even tell you play on playground, eat lunch, mommy comes back. lol. Give it some time, I'm sure he will adjust.  Big hugs though, b/c it can be super hard.

DizzyBlonde

Have they suggested anything to try to make it easier on him?  I know a friend who would explain what was going to happen on their way to daycare each morning - like, you're going to school. You're going to do this, this, and this today, and Mommy will be back after you do this.  I'm guessing he's not old enough to do times and such, but I know that this helped her son learn that mommy was coming back and that he could have fun in the meantime because he knew when she would be there.