Thank-you notes for 1st birthday?

erino&chrish

I'm curious as to who did these.  I planned on doing them, but have noticed a couple friends (well-mannered) who haven't done them for birthday party gifts.  I'm wondering what the norm is.

cbwm

I *always* do thank yous for any kind of giftable occasion. Anyone who doesn't needs to be throat punched. lol

 

Lucky_Dragonfly

we did them.or rather i shoudl say I wrote them out.

lovemytwoboys

Why in the world would you not send them?! I find that incredibly rude. So yes, we definitely send them after birthdays.

We made photo cards on Shutterfly and then wrote personalized messages in each card. The photo cards were important to me since so many friends and family lives so far away and couldn't come but were still nice enough to send a gift. I wanted them to be able to see a few pictures from the day.

AFC921

I did them for DD's birthday. You don't have to go crazy with it, just a generic "Thank you for your thoughtful gift and sharing my special day with me, Love, LO" should suffice.

Soon2BMrsN

Just finished ours!  I hate writing TYs, but it's necessary, imo.

I did them as if DS was writing them, which actually made it easier. 

linz/scott

cbwm:

I *always* do thank yous for any kind of giftable occasion. Anyone who doesn't needs to be throat punched. lol

 

Guess I deserve to be throat punched!

Heffalump

I absolutely did them, and I don't see why anyone would not.

katekirschner

Thank you notes are always the norm for an occasion where a gift is given!

jannv11

I did.  most I handed out and didn't mail to the people i see often (family) and so friends I just sent a nice email thanking them. 

erino&chrish

Alright, thanks ladies!  That's what I thought.  Hmmm...we moved recently so maybe they sent "thank-you's" and we didn't get them??  (Being optimistic here).  I am doing mine today.  I got cute jungle print ones!

lwrigley2000

I did although it's after a month later and I'm just getting out the last 7 or 8. Better late then never, right?!?

Bride7-7-07

I always send thank you notes when a gift is given or a kind gesture is done. I will say, for the past 10 or so events that I have gone to, I did not receive a thank you note, which I think is horrible.  I think that if you take the time to go to an event and give a gift, the least a person could do is give you a thank you (handwritten) IMO,

robbie3982

I think it's dumb to send thank you notes for a gift that was received and opened in front of the person who gave it.  We thanked each gift giver in person as DS opened their presents.  I think they're a waste of paper.  When I get one I read it, think "oh, that's nice" and then throw it away.

That being said, we'll do them because we always get them when we give a birthday gift and I don't want people to think we didn't appreciate their gifts.  However, I would not think less of someone who didn't send one.

janbrady

I sent them. I also wrote them as if LO wrote them. All my friends do this, at first I thought it was cheesy, but I must admit it was a lot more fun to write this way!

Janell's Nest

I absolutely think its necessary and I do harbor resentment towards people who don't send them.  Case in point...my lazy unemployed SIL who still as of today has not sent a TY for her baby shower gift that was almost a year ago November.  I think that is incredibly rude and unappreciative and I won't buy her or her family any more gifts ever because of it.

MrsJMB

We always, always do thank you notes for everything.  

We went to a party 6 weeks ago for a first birthday and haven't gotten a thank you note from that yet.  We didn't get one for the baby shower either. 

UpNorthGal

Ditto this!

jbl126

Soon2BMrsN:

Just finished ours!  I hate writing TYs, but it's necessary, imo.

I did them as if DS was writing them, which actually made it easier. 

same here.  Banged them out in one night.

Jen748

I did them for DD's bday.

secuccaro

katekirschner:

Thank you notes are always the norm for an occasion where a gift is given!

Ditto - and they should be hand-written and mailed, IMO.

newmama0208

Made them, wrote them, and sent them in the mail:)

katypresson

I always send TY notes for gifts.  Even if I didn't have a party and someone sends a gift...they get a TY note.

kbs0929

yes, I always do thank you notes.

for Max's 1st birthday, I took a picture of him with each guest and included that picture in their thank you card.

maddiesmama09

I sent them to everyone except my parents, who I know won't be offended.  I personally think it's un-necessary to send them unless it's to someone who sent their gift or wasn't there for you to thank in person.  I still sent them to everyone though, because I know some people get offended if they don't get one.

LynnJones

I did them. 

Maddymom

I wrote them, DD "signed" them. They're a nice gesture i think.

kabarbanel

I definitely did them! And always do for any giftable occasion!

smellycat15

I didn't do them. I've never received them from anyone except one friend. Our families don't do them. Everyone at the party got thanked in person when she opened it and then again when they were leaving. If we receive them from people that aren't there, we send them. I sent them out for the wedding and shower gifts but I don't think they are required for a birthday. Just my opinion.

Chrysallys

No way would I not send them. Which reminds me that I stiill need to mail a couple off.

sunnyday016

katekirschner:

Thank you notes are always the norm for an occasion where a gift is given!

Yep, that's how I was raised! 

Chrysallys

Soon2BMrsN:

Just finished ours!  I hate writing TYs, but it's necessary, imo.

I did them as if DS was writing them, which actually made it easier. 

I did it this way as well and also felt it made writing them easier.

sarcole530

I always, always, always do thank you notes. Party or not, I do them. Some people who weren't even invited to DS's party got him a gift, and I sent them thank yous. I think it's just common courtesy becuase they took the time to shop for a gift, pay for it, and thought enough of your LO and your family to do it. I'd sent them. :-)

pumpkin_head

I'm really anal about TY notes, so yes, I did them.  I ordered some cute picture cards from Shutterfly and sent them out within a couple weeks.  I have a friend who never sends them out for anything and it annoys me to no end, she didn't even send them for her showers.  It's just a nice thing to do I think.   

bride042305

I am always up on ettique par, but when I looked up what to do it stated that "if a gift was received at a party and the gift was opened with the giver present, and a verbal thank you was given, there is no need to send a thank you note.". However, all of my friends sent thak you notes out and I believe if I didn't it would be frowned upon. Hope that helps!

*H&J*

bride042305:

I am always up on ettique par, but when I looked up what to do it stated that "if a gift was received at a party and the gift was opened with the giver present, and a verbal thank you was given, there is no need to send a thank you note.". However, all of my friends sent thak you notes out and I believe if I didn't it would be frowned upon. Hope that helps!

You are right.  Per etiquette guidelines if a birthday gift was opened in front of the giver and you thanked them personally you are not required to send them. We had a small party with just immediate family members so I took a few moments per person to thank them for coming and for the gift.  I would never be offended if I attended a party, gave a gift, was thanked in person and then did not receive a card.  If I sent a gift and it was never acknowledged then that's different.  Throat punches are welcome.

carlab44

bride042305:

I am always up on ettique par, but when I looked up what to do it stated that "if a gift was received at a party and the gift was opened with the giver present, and a verbal thank you was given, there is no need to send a thank you note.". However, all of my friends sent thak you notes out and I believe if I didn't it would be frowned upon. Hope that helps!

Yep, it isn't required if you open the gift in front of the giver and verbally thank the person. That said we still always send thank you notes.

Echowysp

Yep, we did them.  Especially because ds got sick and went to bed before he got to open presents.

MrsKenney

cbwm:

I *always* do thank yous for any kind of giftable occasion. Anyone who doesn't needs to be throat punched. lol

 

Hilarious - and so true! I want my DD to learn to thank someone anytime they are kind enough to give her a gift.