nervous to tell brother and wife

ALY1981

We haven't officially announced yet, just to our parents and a few friends.  We plan on doing so next Wednesday after my NT scan.  I still have yet to tell my brother and his wife that I'm pregnant.  I'm at the point now that I can't really hide my pregnancy as my stomach is already large and in charge, and I've done whatever I can to avoid seeing them.  My sister in law is Jewish and her family is very hush hush about babies.  Her sister didn't announce to us until 15 weeks when she was expecting, and they didn't bring a single baby item into the home until her son was born.  They were so quiet about it, I felt uncomfortable ever bringing it up or acting excited for her. 

Anyway, I have plans to see her this Sunday and will tell her and the family the news.  I guess I am just afraid of a negative reaction, that being almost 12 weeks won't be far enough along and that I shouldn't be announcing.  I'm afraid of them not being happy for us.  And I'm scared of something happening now that more people will know, afraid I'd have to deliver bad news if something were to happen.  Maybe I'm a wreck because I haven't had an u/s in a few weeks and I am wondering if everything is alright. 

Anyway, I guess this was more like a vent.  Thanks for listening!

j11skate

I'm sure they'll be happy for you.  I told earlier than you bc I just couldn't hold it in any longer so you're stronger than I am!  

mama_cito95

I would say share when you are ready to share not because you feel like you "need to" like because you are showing.  If you are not comfortable sharing because it's too early, etc, I would hold off until you do feel confident enough about your pregnancy.  If people ask you before you are ready, just tell them you don't have any news to share at this moment.  And I wouldn't worry about what your SIL's reaction will be. 

Mouseygail

I would think that your SIL would be understanding that not everyone shares her family's views on how to handle pregnancies.  Try to enjoy telling them and sharing in your super exciting news!!!

MrsVicki

Mouseygail:

I would think that your SIL would be understanding that not everyone shares her family's views on how to handle pregnancies.  Try to enjoy telling them and sharing in your super exciting news!!!

I agree completely. I think she should be understanding and not pass judgement. Although her family's view is different, it doesn't mean yours has to be the same. 

It's exciting news! I can't wait to share next week either as my NT scan is on Monday...I'm dying in anticipation! I can't believe we've been able to hold out this long!

lmc5004

I just wanted to say that i love ya! And everyone will be happy for you, you deserve the best.

 

xoxo 

ALY1981

Thanks ladies! I'm very excited to let the cat out of the bag next week and they will be the first to tell. You're right, I will embrace this time and I know in my heart they will be happy for me. Thanks!

GenRN45

My mother is Jewish (I'm agnostic) and we had to have a conversation a few weeks ago about how her beliefs aren't mine and shockingly she was okay. Granted, any baby thing already purchased is in HER house right now, not mine, but we're still having a shower and the baby's room will be set up before s/he's born. And she was more excited about telling people than even I was, I think.

what it Comes down to is your family loves you and they will be happy for you no matter what their own beliefs are. And FWIW, we waited until after our NT to tell most people too.