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March 2011 Moms
Sheas
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Being in a wedding... Pregers
Sheas
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So, I am the MOH in a wedding in October. I am fearing telling my girlfriend, because she has already been somewhat of a b**** throughout her planning process. She has basically made me feel like I should put my entire life on hold and revold my time and energy around her wants and needs. So, now I have to tell her that I will be prego at her wedding, not only that, but I will probably be showing by then... What to do, what to do?? Is it sad, that I know she is going to have a selfish response when I tell her, instead of being happy for me???
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Re: Being in a wedding... Pregers
She's just going to have to get over it. It's not like you can take it back or anything, and a baby is a bigger deal than her wedding, sorry but it's true. Don't put up with her being selfish and rude about it.
My little sister is getting married around the time my baby is due, I was supposed to be her MOH. She told me months ago that if I was pregnant at her wedding she didn't want me in it. Fine by me. If you're important to her and she really wants you to be her MOH, she'll get over it and be happy for you. If not, she's not worth getting upset over. Good luck!
She should get over it - I had five bridesmaids, two had given birth three months prior to our wedding and one was pregnant during our wedding. When the girl who was pregnant told me I was thrilled but more concerned if she still wanted to stand up. She did.
I'm sorry you're dealing with the bridezilla!
One of my BMs told me shortly after agreeing to be in my wedding that she was pg, and she'd understand if I didn't want her to be in my wedding anymore. I thought that was ridiculous and insisted she be in my wedding (unless, of course she didn't want to be for her own reasons). I didn't ask her to be my BM bc I wanted a skinny wedding party, I wanted her there bc she was my friend and I wanted her support. I worked with her to pick out dresses that would work, and for our 4 hour photo shoot we made sure she was comfortable (we had some shots in a back alley, and the boys went into a nearby shop and borrowed a stool, which turned out to be a great prop). She was 7 months pregnant.
I don't know what to say about bridezilla, sorry.
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Just tell her like you would tell anyone else and ignore any negative feedback. If she gives you lip, say something like,"It's not like I can take it back. I'll be there for you on your wedding day one way or the other." Then get off the phone, smile, and be happy about your pregnancy.
I am in my brother's wedding on Oct. 2nd and his fiancee can be a bit nutso about wedding stuff, too. But I'm not worried. I'll be just about 16w then and should only have a small bump. Plus, my brother would most definitely give her a good reaming if she had the nerve to complain about it!
I already have my BM dress and it fits well...I'm a tad worried that it will be snug for the wedding but not really. It's a lace-up back, so I can make it looser, and I can always get it taken out a teeny bit if I need to.
Don't worry yourself! Good luck!
I'm in the same boat. I'm in two wedding this fall. One in Sep the other in Oct. I'll be 14-15wks along. I told one bride we were TTC and her reaction wasn't what I was expecting. I thought she'd be excited, but she just brushed it off. It was weird. I'm not looking forward to telling her I'm pregnant. Her bachelorette party is in Aug, so I'll have to spill the news sooner than I'd like.
I'm definitely nervous. My plan is to let the brides now a couple weeks before their big event (wedding for bride 1, bachelorette for bride 2) so they can digest the news and I'm not dumping my news on them during their big day.
I say tell her as soon as you can, to give her time to absorb and accept the news. I agree with the other posters - she may not have a happy response, but she is just going to have to deal with it.
Brides-to-be are a little weird sometimes. I just told one of my best friends the other day. I am to be a BM in her wedding in Sep. She knows all about our TTC struggles and LOONG journey through medicated cycles to TTC, and her reply was "Oh, cool! Nice!". Not exactly the reaction I was expecting, but whatever. I am trying not to let it bother me.
So my advice is - just be prepared that her reaction may go either way. Even if her initial reaction is not as joyous, she will eventually come around. And besides, the rest of the world will be thrilled by your news
Good luck!!
Glad I am not the only one going through this! I got the same reaction basically, except she did say one thing... "No, you can't get pregnant, because then you can't drink with me at the wedding"... Kind of strange I thought??? I will have to tell her soon, because as part of her Bach. party, we are getting pin-up photos taken, and I am not so sure I want my baby bloat hanging out in a picture like that!!!! We'll see though.
I hope you make it through ok!!!!!
My SIL was my MOH in my wedding. She was due 12 days after my wedding date. I told her I still wanted her to be in the wedding but she didn't have to do anything, not even fix my train or anything like that. She stood up and gave birth to my nephew 36 hours after my wedding was over.
I was 7 months pregnant in my friends wedding in 2008. She was fine with it - my only issue was the dress looked bad on me! (It was a non maternity dress and gave me major porn star boobs).