Marriage counseling

preheatedoven

I posted a few weeks ago that DH got fired from his job (3rd in as many yrs) and that I am having major resentment issues with him being the stay-at-home parent. Add financial stress of unexpected job loss and adjusting to having twins...well we are at each other every minute of the day.

We are going to counseling for the first time today. It's actually the therapist I was seeing during all of the IF hell the past few years. I am at the end of my rope, I really hope this helps me not want to scream at him all the time. I am starting to feel like Kate when she talks to John (though with 6 fewer kids).

ETA -oh, and today I have two 6 month olds! I can't believe how fast it has gone! 

mrsolsenk12

I really hope that the counseling helps. Seeking help is always a wonderful first step. Congrats on the twins 1/2 birthday.

LVBlvd

Best of luck to you guys!!

Mouseygail

Hoping that having someone to hash all of your feelings out with helps!!  (((HUGS)))  and happy half-birthday to your twinsies!!! 

*Willis*

Happy half birthday!

It's good you're seeing some one and you realize you are at the end of your rope.  Hopefully this helps.  GL! 

Mrs.Babbsy

Best of luck to you guys! I hope it works out.

And happy half birthday!

GuitaristsGirl

I'm proud of you guys!  I hope this is the first of many great steps for you two.  Best of luck today. 

TheSkimmy

Good for you guys!!! That's a huge step and I'm glad you both are willing to work on it! Congrats on the 6th month bday today!!

piccolina09

GL! Twins are so much work and are  a major life adjustment. I hope the therapist gives you tools to move forward together.

itsmevkb

I hope it helps.  I know my dh and I fought more than we ever have prior during the first six months after our son was born.  My husband wasn't unemployed but worked part-time at night so he was the stay-at-home dad which was a definite adjustment.  We're dealing with him being semi-unemployed right now (very reduced hours and corresponding reduction in pay) and it's hard.  Stick with it and I'm sure things will start to improve.

SeptGirl05

GL with the counseling - I hope it helps!!

Christakim

I'm sorry you are going through this rough spot.  I know how financial stress can impact your relationship, it's really tough.  ((hugs)) hun.

desabean

I am going through something *similar* and I will tell you-- the employment stress is harder for me than IF ever was.  It is so hard to not get resentful in my experience.  We are *almost* over the hump and think there is really light at the end of the tunnel this time, but it has taken a toll on our relationship-- I'm so tired of being tested.

Hang in there, I'm a huge advocate of counseling. I hope you guys can get some good tools to help you better cooperate during this stressful time and be supports to on another.

wiscgirl95

1st-Congrats on the 6  month old cuties!  How time flies!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this.  Resentment is never healthy and can really lead to a quick deterioration in a relationship.  I totally understand why you would feel that way, and can't imagine the stress you are both dealing with.  I think it's great you guys are going to see a counselor and I hope it's helpful.  Hopefully the counselor can help you express your anger and frustration in a better non-Kate way and also help and figure out why your DH has gone through 3 jobs in 3 years. 

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.  I'm sure I already know the answer to this, but has BIL been any help???

((hugs))

gabbeyh

Sounds like you need to ride a pepper

I'm sorry that you and DH are going through a rough time.  Do you see someone local?  We were/are in the market for one as well.