Vent about my "help"

amiamish

I arranged for my Grandma to come stay with me last week for two days and then all this week also to help me. I told her I wanted her to help with Jake mostly, keep him entertained and play with him lots so he didn't feel left out- he LOVES his Mimi. So she comes down but does NOTHING to help me. I had to make her breakfast and lunch, plus clean up. She didn't want to play with Jake, she wanted to sit and talk to me (I wanted a nap!) or she wanted to just hold Colin. Plus she slept in until 9ish and Jake was up at 730- so I got up with him. Thank god I'm healing 10x faster/better than I did when I had Jake and I really don't need her help. She stayed the two days and was ready to come back this week, but I called her on Sunday (after thinking it over all weekend) and told her that I didn't need her help, but I really appreciated her willingness to be here. She started crying on the phone. UGH! I felt like the biggest ass, but seriously she was more work then help and I don't need that. (plus she's a little bit of a bitter woman, so her gossip and stories are kinda depressing)

On the up side, it was just me and the boys today and it went great! We even went to the library so Jake could have some fun. He loves the library. And we're going to try to go to the park later this week.

hopefulmom

I think most grandma's would prefer to hold a newborn then play with a 3 year old.  I definitely would not have been waiting on her (making her breakfast, cleaning up after her, etc).  She would starve in my house!  I did good to get the toddler fed.  lol

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sorry   It stinks that she cried, but that is not the help you need. Perhaps make a lunch date with her so she can just come over and hold the baby (in the meantime, find other help).