Just can't win with the IF girl

schoolsoutbride

A good friend of mine is about 20 weeks PG with her 1st.  Another mutual friend e-mailed a bunch of mutual friends of all of ours about doing a baby shower for her.

I'm conspicuously missing from the list.

On the one hand I'm relieved b/c the friend is high maintenance and I'm not sure I'd want to plan her baby shower IF or not.  On the other hand, I think I was left off b/c of IF (this was recent, right around my BFP), which is both sensitive to my situation and sucks.

I don't know that any resolution would have made me happy.

Jeez, what do I want?

MrsKario

Yep, the conflicting emotions with IF are a biatch.  It does sound like they are trying to be sensitive to your feelings and it is probably a blessing if she is that high maintainance.

Sending big hugs!

Dragonfly1226

I hear you. In situations like that one part of me is glad that I won't have to deal with it, but the other part is hurt to be left out. I guess there's no making us IF girls happy.

At least you don't have to worry about planning so that you can focus on yourself

BunnyintheYard

I struggle with the same situations with my friends.  I'm offended to be left off of belly pic emails, but also glad to be spared, since everyone replies-to-all with how cute they are, and questions, etc.

It's just a double edged sword.  But, in this case, enjoy being left out of the planning... you've got other things to focus on anyway

schoolsoutbride

Oh, crap.  I officially decided I preferred being left off the list.  The Mom to be just e-mailed everyone, including me, with a list of suggestions and ideas for the shower.