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Pregnant after IF
a final adoption update
So we finally heard back from our Program Manager.
In a nutshell, she relayed our "recent correspondence and sentiment" to the director in the Korea office, but they still feel strongly that going forward with the adoption wouldn't be in the best interest of Samuel. Due to our due date being so close to the date he would come home to us, they didn't feel he would have enough indvidual care and attention before a sibling would be added to the family. So that's that. There's no appeal process.
We're heartbroken over the decision. I feel like I've lost a child. Even though I'ev never met him, I've looked at his pictures every day for the last 4 months and we've talked about all the things that we were looking forward to doing with him. I decorated the nursery with him in my thoughts and now everything in there reminds me of him. Will I ever be able to use the nursery for the baby without thinking of Samuel?? :-(
At the same time, I'm relieved that I'm not in limbo-land anymore. My prayers will be that Samuel find a family that will love him and care for him and be that family that he was always meant to be with.
After 5 years of TTC, 3 IUIs, 5 IVFs, 2 FETs, multiple losses and an adoption that wasn
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Re: a final adoption update
I am so sorry, Rose.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
thanks for the support, ladies. I know you all were rooting for us and I appreciate all the good thoughts.
xoxo
I am so, so sorry to hear this. I, too, pray that Samuel finds a family that will love and care for him like you and your husband would.
Take time to deal with this loss - b/c it is a loss. He was yours. I'll be thinking about y'all.
Rose, my heart breaks for you any time I think of this.
I will pray daily that Samuel will be loved and cared for soon by a family as wonderful as you and DH.
xoxoxo
3 IUI's, 2 IVF's , 1 FET , 1 IVF w/ Gestational Carrier, and 1 FET using adopted embryo's = ALL BFNs
We are adopting!
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I am so very sorry hon. I wish there were words... It just doesn't seem fair to me.
(((((hugehugs)))))
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2
After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
Was lurking hoping for a good outcome to this, but I'm just heartbroken for you.
Hang in there, we're pulling for you.
I'm so sorry to hear this.
TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs
TTC since 2007
6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.