Vent about DH's work

care99

Feel free not to read, I just need to get this off my chest.  DH is leading this huge deployment at work and has to work (like sleep at the office work) almost every weekend from now until January.  Only 6 weekends are free and he even has to work on Hayden's 1st birthday, though he is coming home for the party.

DH works all.the.time and I am not really sure how I'm going to get through the rest of this year.  He comes home right at 7 and sees Hayden for about 5 minutes before I put him to bed.  He does Colin's bath/bed and then works til 12 or 1 then is out the door at 7am.  We never see each other and I have to do everything else - groceries, clothes shopping, clean, doctor's appts, etc. etc.  So no us time or me time. 

I know some of your DH's travel all the time and I'm just being whiney, so thanks for reading if you got this far!

K&P414

Yuck.    I'm sorry he's having suck a crappy schedule.

maykat

Yuck is right.  Hang in there.  It will take you a few weeks but you will find a rythmn.  I hope he's able to spend more time at home than anticipated.

It stinks:(

care99

Yeah, I know I'm being a baby - he's leading a nationwide deployment, so this is huge for his career.  I just miss him

kbrickell

Hi friend I feel so out of touch with you lately. Yuck Carrie! You are not whining that just plain sucks! I am so sorry. Dave and I got into a huge fight tonight about me working too much. Finding that balance is so hard on either end. I am actually considering taking my old job up on the offer presented to me a few months ago.

MLvK

He's giving up a lot and so are you.  You have a right to biitch.   I hope they are compensating him well for missing so much family time for such a long period of time. 

Big hugs to you.  

ebearwife

DH worked like this the summer after we got engaged.  I also had a consulting engineering job and both our schedules could be brutal...no kids, though - so I can't even imagine.  I quit my consulting job as soon as I got back from the honeymoon.  Yeah...this is the main reason we are probably going to be a one income household after my maternity leave - his travel.  I could barely handle one kiddo with his traveling.  I guess I should appreciate my ILs more....

 

Amy_729

I am really sorry that he is going to be working so much for the rest of the year. DH and I both worked in public accounting for several years, so I definitely understand how you feel. DH did 100% travel for awhile and I had a client where we had mandatory 6 day weeks for months on end. It just plain sucks. I hope that you are able to find a good routine that works for you, and I hope that maybe he gets more time off than he is expecting. Hugs.

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

You have the right to complain.  Your dh's work schedule really does suck.  I'm sorry you are having to go at it alone.  Being a single mommy is hard, but I say whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.  Hang in there and big ((hugs)) to you.

Daisy22

I get it! This is bascially how our weeks are except right now Adam isn't working weekends except some on sunday nights. It sucks! I actually cried last night b/c I'm just so overwhelmed and I have no clue how I'm going to handle 2 kids plus everything else. Sometimes I feel like life is going on around us with Adam and I just going through the motions. I know you work a lot as well so I don't know how you're doing it all. HUGS!

MrsKLB

Hey Carrie!  I still think you have every right to vent/complain about this.  Even most people who have a DH who travels have him home on the weekend.  Plus, you are also working full-time and it's hard to have to do EVERYTHING by yourself every day.  I know it's going to be tough for the next 6 months or so, but just be sure to take advantage of your parents or baby sitters when you can so that you can have some time for you.  Maybe go out during the week some time since he'll have to be working all weekend?  Let me know if you need anything... you should get a babysitter and we can have a GNO!  Good luck!

myrall

That's really tough, Carrie. I'm sorry.  I hope things improve quickly!

Alison422

Wow, that is a rough schedule!  It is almost like he is out of town for work.  Do what you need to do to get through it - even if that means venting about it! 

Kerrin

Oh girl, I'm so sorry.I hope he's being well compensated for it, otherwise it wouldn't be worth it.

DH and i have this chat pretty routinely.  That unless he's making an a$$load of money, I'm not going to live my life like that.  Thats' not what i signed up for.  My DH and probably yours too, have NO idea what it takes to run a household and to do it all.by.yourself.  They would crack in less than a week if they had to do the things we did.  It's bad enough that we both have to work, same as you, but for them to be gone that much extra?  It sucks.

I know that in this economy, you do what you have to do, but maybe it's time to sit down and have a chat about priorities and where family comes in.  Is he happy with the way things are?  It's clear that you aren't.  And that's not going to work for very long before you get resentful.

At the end of it all, no one ever said, "I wish I had worked more".