horrible OB appointment (baby okay for now) (long)

perry7285

went in for a regular check-up today, and boy, did it suck.

the appointment starts with the doctor bringing up how freakin' fat i'm getting (up 31 pounds at 27 weeks--obviously not what i planned, and i'm not sure why it's happening since i've been watching what i eat). we talked about what to do; she thinks maybe the problem is that i'm eating a reasonable number of calories but my carb/protein ratio is too high. okay, not fun to talk about my chubbiness, but i can deal . . . then things get worse.

she's like, "so, when do you do your 1-hour glucose"? and i was like, "what? i did it two weeks ago." i had done it two weeks ago, and since the policy with my OB is that you don't get a phone call for normal results (you only get a call if they're abnormal), i had assumed that my results were fine. not the case. she starts flipping through the charts and finds that my glucose was 165 when it was supposed to be under 140, and somehow this fell between the cracks and nobody notified her or me. so for the last two weeks i've been eating lots of sugar--i mean, not crazy amounts since i've been trying to keep my number of calories reasonable, but since i thought i didn't have to worry about blood glucose i definitely had more sugar than i should have. i asked her about the dangers of GD and got the worst wave of mommy guilt picturing my baby spending the first day of his life in the NICU (she said GD babies often have to stay there for a day or so) and remembering the breakfast of donuts i had a few days ago. so we scheduled the 3-hour glucose for monday (she said friday or monday was okay, and i had scheduling conflicts tomorrow) and she told me to keep eating the way i've been eating until then so that we don't mask it. i never thought i would hate the idea of eating ice cream so much. and i feel like such a horrible mom for not having had a better diet so far.

then we go on to talk about the placenta previa, which she doesn't seem to expect to resolve itself (although we'll do another ultrasound in two weeks to be sure). and placenta previa talks are never fun. she said that with my next pregnancy i'll have a higher risk of placenta accreta--if i get placenta accreta it usually means they have to do a hysterectomy when you deliver. DH and i are on the fence between wanting two or three kids . . . i guess the decision will be made for us if i lose my uterus with my second pregnancy. =(

and THEN . . .

she ends the appointment by saying, LAUGHING, "this pregnancy is going to set a record for number of complications!" i pretended to laugh along with her, while thinking, "um, what? lost twin, risk of preterm delivery, my baby in the NICU while his blood sugar crashes . . . yeah, this is all hilarious, fvcking hilarious." grrrrr. very sensitive and tactful, huh?

ugh. okay, thanks to anyone who had the patience to read this far. as soon as i left the appointment i wanted to post--it still amazes me how much comfort and support i get from my bump friends. thank you ladies!!

fairyfey10

I'm sorry your appointment went so crappy, I hope things get better.

kthappy76

I'm so sorry, that sounds awful.  I hope that your glucose comes back fine and your placenta previa resolves itself.  How insensitive can your OB be, wow.  Hang in there hon, one day at a time...

InACitySoNice

I hate your OB.

Not being notified that youur glucose levels were high is unconscionable.  I'd be furious to know I'd "fallen through the cracks".  I would try to cut out sugars and lower my carbs and increase my protein immediately.  Thee's nothing you can do to "mask" GD.  You either have it or you don't.  The 3-hour will show what it shows, despite what you eat, but you should do what you can to mitigate the situation.

If you want more info about changing your diet now, you can PM me.  I had GD twice.

Best of luck ... especially with your insensitive OB. 

Sarahp63

((hugs)) I am so sorry sweetie. I hope you will be just fine for your 3 hour GTT. And you're beautiful, I wouldnt worry about the weight too much. I think some doctors are a bit to quick to judge some things. Thinking of you...

InLove24

I'm sorry you are going through this . With my DD I had GD and placenta previa. She didn't spend any time in the NICU. I hope you pass your 3 hr. test.

newsbaby

Um wow. She sounds really unprofessional. I am so sorry. How could something just slip through the cracks is beyond me. Please do not feel like you could ever be a bad mom because of mistakes that office made.

Good luck at your 3 hour. From now on, I would double check everything with them unfortunately.

Sorry you had to deal with such crap. Hugs! 

SeptGirl05

I'm sorry that does sound sucky! I had GD with my first pregnancy but DD didn't need any NICU time FWIW.

craziheazo

I had previa with DD#2 and while she did spend time in the NICU (born at 33w4d) she did great. I'm sorry that you have it. If you ever want to chat about it or have questions, PM or email me at craziheazo at aol dot com. I'm sorry that you have such an insensitive OB. Good luck with your 3 hour.

theworms

i'm sorry and i think i want to punch your OB.

you and little perry are in my t&p cutie

GL with 3 hour and don't beat yourself up about what you've been eating, your Dr's office should have called, that is beyond unprofessional.

((HUG))

schoolsoutbride

That sounds awful! Good news is, sounds like the baby is fine!

How bad is your previa? Is it complete?  Mine with DS wasn't detected until 18 weeks, then it didn't resolve until 34 weeks or so, but it did resolve.  I thought the majority did, and it seems like you're a little early to say it won't.   I'll think stretch ute stretch thoughts for you!

I also know lots of women who failed the 1hr and passed the 3hr, so I hope that goes well too!

leslie&brian

I'm sorry you had a bad appointment. First of all, your OB sounds like a real as$hat. Who laughs about someone having a lot of complications? You should have said that your complications may not be so bad if your OB was freaking competent and notified you of a failed 1 hour glucose!

A lot of people fail their one hour glucose test, and go on to pass the 3 hour. I failed my one hour, and passed all 4 draws of the 3 hour.

I hope your placenta previa resolves itself. ((hugs))

j11skate

That sucks that they didn't call to tell you about failing the one hour.  I'm glad they did it early on you though and you can still change the way you eat.  I was going to do mine at 28 weeks but now I'm going in next week anyway so I'm going to do it then (I'll be 26 weeks).  

I agree with Newsbaby, I'd check with them about all tests, etc. from here on out since they obviously missed notifying you about a big one!  Sorry again for the bad appointment. 

Mouseygail

InACitySoNice:

I hate your OB.

Not being notified that youur glucose levels were high is unconscionable.  I'd be furious to know I'd "fallen through the cracks".  I would try to cut out sugars and lower my carbs and increase my protein immediately.  Thee's nothing you can do to "mask" GD.  You either have it or you don't.  The 3-hour will show what it shows, despite what you eat, but you should do what you can to mitigate the situation.

 

  This.  That's a lot to take in, I'm sorry that things aren't going smoothly for you at all!  The good news is that, while complicated, you have a healthy baby growing in there and all of the issues are manageable!  (BTW, I hadn't heard anything about the placenta accreta thing when I had a previa and was researching like crazy...so maybe its not really all that common...)

Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping that things calm down for you soon sweetie!!

smilee

I am so sorry, sweetie...

I hope that everything is okay! 

shipoopiisforme

gd does not mean your babies will need nicu time. i had gd and my babies were born at 36w2d and they never were in the nicu, had perfect apgar scores.

all you can do is wait for the results of your 3 hour and then manage your gd (if you have it) as best as you can. don't beat yourself up about it! 

Nesting.Away

Oh huney. ((hugs))

mrslovebug

Wow what a rough appointment!  I am so sorry!

Mrs.Kiltlifter

OMG I am sorry.  Now this is a valid reason to be peeved at the OB.  I cannot believe what she said to you and they did not have the test results to the right channel.  I say smooth sailing from here on out.

kme930

Ugh, I'm so sorry. How frustrating!

I hope you pass your 3 hour with flying colors and that you get a little more support going forward. ((hugs))

PeachyKate

I am so sorry about your appointment! I would have wanted to punch your OB in the face.   I am laughing now at me being mad at my OB for not finding out until a week later about failing the 1 hour when they didn't tell you at all.  So frustrating.  I hope you pass the 3 hour next week so it will be one less thing you have to worry about!

Dragonfly1226

I am so sorry that your appointment was so tough hon. I really hope your 3 hour test goes well.

Sending you lots of (((((hugs))))).  

Alie05

Geez.  Your OB seems great. 

Well, don't be too hard on yourself.  You didn't know about your sugar levels.  If you don't know, how are you too know not to eat sugary stuff?  So don't beat yourself up.  It's their screw up for not informing you.

You will have PLENTY of time for you to adjust your eating (if you have too after your 3 hr), so don't worry!  Your LO will be just fine.  It's the mommies who don't care who's babies have trouble.  And I know you will take every precaution (if you have too) so I have no doubts your LO will be ok. 

Hang in there and GL with your 3 hr.  I had to do it too - it's not so bad.  People told me it was going to be horrible, but I didn't think so.  Just take a book and line up some people to talk on the phone too, and it will go by fast!

Keep us updated!

 

GenRN45

Now, this is a bad OB visit.

1) As a NICU nurse, I ASSURE you that GD isn't a sentence for your child to be in the NICU. Do some wind up there? Sure. But those are mostly the uncontrolled diabetics.

2) I would change OBs NOW. Not soon, not think about it. NOW. It is NOTHING less than negligence that they didn't tell you about your test results. Slipped through the cracks? That's utter bullhockey. Your OB's complete lack of sensitivity with all you have been through plus not notifying you of serious lab results reeks of unprofessionalism.

3) As far as i'm concerned, it's WAY too soon to be overly concerned about the previa. You have plenty of time for it to migrate.

 

I hope you pass the 3hr sweetie.

 

LaneyLooLoo

I really hate when people are insensitive.

yodasmistress

I tried to respond earlier but the bump kept eating my responses. 

FWIW, at my last appointment I was almost 27 weeks and had gained 25 pounds.  My docs have been harassing me about gaining too much weight at every appointment too.  It sucks! 

As for the doc not calling you about your 1 hour results ...   I can't even believe that!  And for her LAUGHING about your pregnancy complications   Wow.  I'm just appalled.   I've read enough about placenta previa to know that it *can* be a serious complication.  I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much right now. 

((HUGS))

ela81

I'm  a litttle late here but, your ob sucks for so many reasons. I had GD and I know many people on here and irl who had GD and I don't know any baby who had nicu time b/c of GD. I had a great pregnancy and a very healthy baby.

wiscgirl95

Wow.  I would not have been so composed at missed lab results and a laughing OB.  After everything you've been through, laughing is the last thing she should have been doing. 

I'm sorry you had such a rough appointment.  Try not to beat yourself up about your eating habits, especially about sugar intake.  You simply didn't know.  I really hope you get nothing but good news from here on out. 

jds0521

man, i'm so sorry you had such a crappy appt perry. big hugs being sent your way. also sending lots of T&P for everything else you are going thru right now and for normal 3-hr glucose results on mon. GL sweetie!

JaGirl

I am so sorry you had this experience. Sounds like she was trying to laugh off her own carelessness. Not funny at all.  I hope your glucose levels come down and pray that your LO is doing well.

MrsVicki

I'm sorry your appointment did not go well. I can't believe she actually thought there was humor in the fact that there are some potential complications. WTH? And, that they did not call you regarding your results? How could they miss that? I would be peeved.

GL at your test, and I hope everything works out perfectly for you in the end

schmoodle

I'm so sorry you had such a crappy appt. Your placenta can still move, mine was VERY low and moved between 28 and 30 weeks, and I never heard anything about risk of placenta accreta in subsequent pregnancies (and my OB is very attuned to placental issues w/ me since I had a previous abruption). Fingers crossed on the GD stuff as well and POO on your insensitive doctor. Thinking of you!

ladychicago

oh hon!   I'm so sorry.... what a crappy appointment.   Sorry you're dealing with all of this.   I promise it will all be worth it in the end, but hang in there.  (((HUG)))

SNB2B

(Popping over from IF). Perry I'm so sorry I hope you pass your 3 hour. My mom had GD with my two younger sisters and they were born happy and healthy. I am wishing you the best and hope to hear of only smooth sailing from here on out.

MayDayGirl

oh man I am so sorry! What a crappy appt...