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Does anyone NOT think about how many months etc?

Unless someone was due around my EDD and I see or talk to them, I really don't think about how far along I SHOULD be, or when my Drs appointment should've been or I would have have an x month old by now.  I was sad around my EDDs, but I guess my pregnancies never felt that real since I had spotting with each loss, so I kind of stopped thinking about what could of been after it was over.  Kind of sad...

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Re: Does anyone NOT think about how many months etc?

  • I'm with you. I have sat down to do the math a few times about where we would be with each loss...but I do have to do the math.

     I don't really hold onto dates like that. It would do nothing but cause me more pain.

  • me too, the only time I really think about it is when other people are close to my EDD.

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  • My EDD came up fast. I started thinking about how old she'd be now if she was born around that time... but then again i have no clue when she would have been born! So lately i haven't been thinking about that. I guess that's good.


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  • I try real hard not to think about how far along I should be right now or anything like that. It's torture.  I don't think I could have come to terms with this all if I was sitting there looking at a calander everyday to see how far along I was..
  • I never really think about it, which makes me very happy.  I have to think about it too, but even the milestones don't make upset me terribly.  Like today, she would be 3 months old....I'm sure her first birthday will be different....but today, doesn't really bother me.  It's just life as a whole, knowing I should have her and don't is what sucks.
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  • I try not to think about it and honestly I don't know off the top of my head. IMO, "letting go" is part of the healing process, for me at least, and while I will never forget our son, I want to move forward with positivity and not be overwhelmed with the "could have/would have beens".

    I am very philisophical about life, and any real event or decision in life can drastically change it's direction. I get very freaked out and upset by thinking about those things so for me it is better not to.

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    My cowokers wife is due within days of my EDD so unfortunately I get reminded where I would be all the time by him.  When they had the big ultrasound, I was reminded I should be having mine.  Just yesterday he was saying how he can't believes it 6 months already and how much the baby is kicking and all I think of was that should be me.  So unfortunately I can't help but know exactly where I should be and what I should be experiencing.  Outside of work thought I rarely think about it.
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