I was so excited to go in and see my OB today. I thought he would be able to help me out with some of my symptoms and that it would be encouraging and that I would get to see baby on an ultrasound.
Well, I told him about my troubling symptoms, I've been having a lot of heart pounding/racing all day, some cramping, and some tightness in my esophogas after eating.
He basically told me that I'm having panic attacks and that I should stop worrying so much. Weeelll, I don't think I'm having panic attacks and I told him that. I don't feel worried about anything, none of my symptoms are particularly worrisome, I just want to know if I can do anything to get rid of them! But he kept saying that I just need to stop worrying and relax. Big help. NOT.
He even rushed me up on the examining table to get a HB reading while I was in the middle of questions. There wasn't anyone in the waiting room, so I don't know why he was in such a hurry.
He asked me if I've felt the baby move yet, which I really don't think I have, and looked at me like that was really odd.
Then I find out that I have to wait another 3 WEEKS to do the anatomy scan and can't do an US today.
So now I feel like abnormal because I haven't felt the baby move yet, and I don't know how to take care of my symptoms, plus I have to wait another 3 weeks. Totally bummed.
Re: Dissapointing OB Visit
I would feel weird getting a new OB. I wish I had 'shopped' around a bit more before I went to him, but he was recommended by my family doctor, and our first appointment was great. Admittedly every appointment after that has left me feeling even more confused... but I don't know if I can just drop him.
Ack..
Maybe give it one more appointment? I just think that I would have to reconsider someone who didn't take my valid concerns seriously.
I love, love my doctor. She spends a long time on each question that I have. She is very laid back, and I am so glad she is going to deliver my child. I think everyone should have faith and confidence in their doc. But I do know that it would be a tough call. GL girl. )
I would talk with him about how he made you feel. I am going to talk to my OB because although I really really like her, at my last appointment she made me feel rushed. I figured I would approach it like: "So I was thinking that if you let me know at the beginning of an appointment that you are in a hurry, I can save some of my less pressing questions for the next time." I don't know about your doctor, but my doctor has patients in labor all the time, so sometimes she has patients in labor downstairs (her office is in the hospital).
I also wouldn't worry about the movement thing. I am just now feeling ambiguous movement (only when I am calm and not moving) and my doctor said it could take up to 21 weeks to feel it.
He did, but I was asking a question the whole time, and he didn't even let me know if it sounded ok afterward.
Schick - I have/am reconsidering my choice. But I think in the end I will stay with because I just feel so weird about dropping him. He's very "don't worry, enjoy yourself!" He's told me to eat whatever I want and not worry about it, to basically disregard everything I read in pregnancy books. Today I asked him if I should stop sleeping on my back, and he said no! Sleep however you are comfortable for as long as you want!
He told me not to worry about ANY symptoms unless I was bleeding, my water broke, or if I had more than 6 contractions in an hour.
Which is nice to know that I don't have to worry about cramping and such, but I want to know if I can alleviate the symptoms that I do have, and WHY they are there.
Thats fine! Thank you for your first post, it sounds like you really went through an ordeal to find out what worked for you! I'm glad you got it figured out though.
I'm having a hard time thinking that it is panic attacks, simply because I don't think I'm worrying about things at the moment my heart starts racing. But I'm starting a 'symptom journal' to document what I'm doing/thinking about and what I've eaten recently to see if there is a pattern.
I'll definitely give your therapy a try when I do feel like that though, it couldn't hurt.
I think I'll give him one more appointment like Schick suggested and if I still feel the same way about him I will shop around. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt because my family Dr. said he was so popular and well liked. Thanks for the encouragement!
Keeping the journal sounds like a great idea. Hopefully it will help you find your answer faster this way. No kidding, but I really wish I had thought of that a long time ago! It probably would have helped a lot.
aww, I'm sorry you had such a crappy appt. I hope your LO starts moving and grooving soon!
Yes, and I actually really like the nurse.
Well I'll be 18 weeks tomorrow, so even by those standards I should have felt something by now. But it is encouraging to hear that some of you haven't felt movement yet either. I think maybe I HAVE felt it, but I just haven't recognized it as being the baby.
The panic attack you describe as being almost like a chemical reaction is exactly what happens to me. There doesn't seem to be any stimuli except for physical activity, like if I just came up the stairs or have been standing for too long. But it happens at other random times like if I'm working at my desk, haven't spoken to anyone, and am only thinking about what I am working on and none of it is stressful. I'm hoping that the journal will help me discover something.
Thanks for the well wishes!
Hey...this really stinks.
I just wanted to let you know that if you are still thinking about the switch, it is manageable. While I am not as far along as you, I just did it. I had my first appt. at my new OB just last week. I think at first they thought I was some kind of terrible pregnant lady that had waited this long to see a doc, but once I explained the situation they were very happy to help. I am really excited with my new choice. But, even with all of this I understand your hesitation. My choice was new insurance related, but I really hope it all works out for you. I know it will!
The closing of your esophagus may be acid reflux. I used to get that before, and it didn't burn. I've been getting palpitations and randomly rapid heartbeat for years now. It has gotten worse during the pregnancy (it was actually my first preg symptom). I'm pretty sure that it is linked to my vagus nerve, which is intertwined with the bowels (I've had a lot of intestinal problems in the past). Changes in my digestion cause a lot of my problems.
I've also heard that it is relatively common for other pregnant women to get these symptoms, especially the palpitations, which makes sense because of the added stress on your bowels during pregnancy.
All of this aside, I think that your idea of keeping a symptom journal is a great one. That way you may be able to pinpoint other factors that may be contributing to your symptoms.
I just wanted to say don't worry about not feeling the baby move yet, with my first I did not feel her until week 20 or later and I still haven't felt this baby yet. I am not worried and neither was my doc.
Sorry about the other symptoms, I know how difficult it is to not get the answers you are looking for.
You can always go to the emergency room if you want an ultrasound sooner than 3 weeks (of course only if you don't get charged a lot for er visits). Claim abdominal pain. At least you will be able to have peace of mind when you see the baby & hear it's heart beat.
No offense to you, but your OB sounds like a ***. I guess since so many people told you to give him another chance, you should, but would drop him right now. I didn't get my midwife last time until I was 6 months along, and ended up dropping her when I was in labor because she wanted to pit me right away. A midwife wanting me on pitocin? I had much better luck with the on-staff doctors.
You'll want your OB to answer your questions and concerns seriously, and not make you feel like an idiot. Doctors have a wonderful way of doing that. You should be VERY comfortable with this person, since you will be having one of the most important (if not the most important) experiences in your life with them. If he doesn't make you feel comfortable & assured, get rid of him.
Pregnancy books have lots of very useful info & are not meant to scare you. Sleeping on your back can be dangerous- the weight of the baby cuts off blood flow to a main artery. Left side is best for you & baby. Any doctor that doesn't tell you that is a moron. Trust me, I know that it sucks, I whine about it every night to my hubby. A body pillow helps a lot. These days you have to take some advice from the docs, and then do a lot of your own research. In this money-driven healthcare system, we unfortunately cannot put all of our trust into our doctors like people used to. The information is out there, use it.
If this is your first pregnancy, it's normal to not feel the baby move until 20 weeks. Don't worry.
If you do feel like you are having anxiety, or worrying too much, you can try "Bach Flower Essences, Rescue Remedy". It is perfectly safe for pregnancy, babies, people on meds, kids, everyone! And it really works. It helps to quiet your mind if you take a few drops before you go to bed at night.
Good Luck to You & Baby!
So I was having similar symptoms and my OB is referring me to a cardiologist. He's extremely laid back about things also, definitely not the type of doctor who makes you feel like you need to live in some kind of bubble so the fact that he felt it warranted a second opinion means alot to me. Maybe your doctor is a little too nonchalant about things. Even if you give him another chance I would start asking people for who they would recommend, that way you're prepared to switch if needed.
Good idea on keeping a symptom journal. The fact that your heart is racing should have been at least a slight concern to your OB and not a brush off. Granted, I have a heart condition but when I saw my OB at 13 weeks she noticed my heart was racing. Since then I have been put on a low dose beta blocker to try and regulate my heart rate. She said its not good for me or baby for my heart rate to be racing during the pregnancy. Now....keep in mind..I have a heart condition so they are montioring me closesly but it seems like its not all that uncommon for healthy pregnant women to experience heart palpatations and racing heart due to the extra blood load on your heart. Your OB should not have written them off as panic attacks. Not to scare you but it could be something very justifiable on why your having these symptoms other than "panic attacks." If your still having symptoms at your next appointment I would mention them again and your concern. If your doc still blows you off I would look elsewhere.